People who aren't Black can never understand what it is to have your actual hair, the stuff that grows out of your head according to the blueprint your genes give it, such a site of riotous contention, & so violently socially controlled.
The closest a white person will ever get is the way some Asian tourists will come up to a blonde person and just touch it. And that's not even close. Or as common as people just touching a random black person's hair.
I hated being an oppressed labrat for my mother, nan, great aunties, nan's frends, etc, who thought they owned my head & hair. I would scream in pain everytime they came near me with their evil implements. Id yell, "give me bald & leave me alone" as a girl. Terrorist hair junkies are traumatizing.