totally understandable. i’m just thinking about interlocking power dynamics; it’s clear this situation and yr space is trans woman-only and it makes tons of sense why, i did not mean to take away from that
My server is not only for trans women, it's for my friends. I have trans and cis friends. I did not like when a cis person took advantage of his power imbalance over my trans friends and put us in disproportionate harm he would not face, violated our privacy in ways his wasnt. That was my problem.
(like my unfinished thought was “women deserve privacy, trans people in general deserve privacy, but trans women’s need for a space like this is like multiply compounded and that gives this a special dimension of awfulness”)