Jessica Zellers

ChrisⓋ WhyGameDev.com @chrisdeleon.bsky.social [ View ] May 31, 2024 at 20:55 UTC

when you see someone made almost exactly the same joke as you but theirs does better numbers that's a doppelbanger

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 03:34 UTC

I don't know that the outcome will be any different, but I feel better having the chance to write about myself. I felt icky for all twenty minutes I was on Hinge. I felt shallow and gross, reducing myself to a few selfies and Poster witticisms

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 03:23 UTC

I don't hate OKCupid as much as I hate Hinge. I've been on it for 90 minutes and haven't felt rage. I have said this before, but it shouldn't be this hard. You and I are both pretty terrific people. what gives.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 03:11 UTC

YUP. I first got on the apps in [redacted], though I took a break in spring of 2020 because the world was collapsing. Since then it's been nonstop job and life drama, but I just moved to a big city so I figure it's time to try again. Just in four years it's devolved horribly.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 03:07 UTC

The reason I love Bluesky is because it lets me build friendships in a way that works for me. I can have real conversations. Each skeet is short, but over time, they paint a portrait of a personality. All the more true since I left traditional employment in 2022 and became a hermit.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 02:53 UTC

Twitter is where I met my closest friends. Whom I still haven't met in real life yet. I need to fix that. And I've made some wonderful friends here, some of whom I have met. Meeting another tomorrow, actually! It's great! However.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 02:38 UTC

They're awful. But dating apps are the... it seems wrong to call them the most successful tool, so rather let me say they are the least unsuccessful tool I've used in 25 years of dating.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 02:36 UTC

...I have a lot of very bad stories. The only reason I am still attempting it is because of the overwhelming biological urge to meet someone. It's hardwired into me, as it is for most people. If past performance is any predictor, I am in for a horrible time. And that's if I even meet anyone. 🤷‍♀️

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 02:33 UTC

That approach has never worked for me. I may resort to it if I have to, but that's...that's just not how I make connections.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 02:08 UTC

oh I will

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:59 UTC

I don't mind putting in effort, I plan to actually since this is important to me, but Hinge did not make me want to be there. It was all guessing. How am I supposed to guess whether we'll have rapport based on snippets?

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:43 UTC

how did I get tagged in something called Adult Tongue

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:42 UTC

oh we're not at wingman stage I haven't been on a date in...five years I think?

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:39 UTC

trying okcupid now

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:39 UTC

Minnesota's not on there, unfortunately But I appreciate your trying!

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:37 UTC

I solve most of my problems with spreadsheets. Thank you. 😍 Now how do we communicate this to interested parties.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:28 UTC

Next two on my .xls are OK Cupid and Bumble

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:26 UTC

it's a sensory thing for me. and there are other reasons. Normally I don't bore people by describing it. It just means I miss a lot of references.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:25 UTC

Since 2001, I haven't watched movies or television by myself, only in the company of other people. Which limits things somewhat.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:24 UTC

I have...more than one bad story.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:23 UTC

The UX sucked, and I don't think it's just because I am a fussy user. Less fussy people would find it unpleasant too.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:21 UTC

Blake. I haven't watched a movie of my own volition since 2001. No.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:21 UTC

okay, I deleted Hinge 20 minutes after I opened my account. It was awful. I cannot get to know other people based on photos and one-sentence answers. It was like doing smalltalk during a networking event at a conference, real seventh circle of hell shit

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:18 UTC

Reedsy is for editing, not dating

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:14 UTC

I've been on here 20 minutes and I'm ready to delete it. I do not think Hinge is right for me. It feels like small talk.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:08 UTC

🧐

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:07 UTC

idk, I already hate it. My so-called profile consists of some photos and three two-sentence prompts. As I am unable to communicate in essays of less than 1200 words, I am irritated. That doesn't reflect me. It's a few pictures and some zingers.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 01:04 UTC

that's right

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 00:59 UTC

Am I doing this right

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 00:29 UTC

blocked and reported

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 00:29 UTC

Since they were supposed to get here two days ago, can today count as three whole days I've made them last? At the time of this writing I have only eaten one

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 00:25 UTC

THEY SHOWED UP!

@wyattswickedgoods.com

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 00:04 UTC

If it shapes up into anything useful, I'll share it!

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 00:01 UTC

I might start with Hinge. I used it a few years ago, and there weren't many people, but at the time I was living in a rural community, and it was still kind of new. This time around, I'll have much better luck. Right? Right!

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 11, 2024 at 00:00 UTC

I have something even better than a newsletter. I have a hashtag called Team Dying Alone and I am ready to bring it out of retirement. I use it to describe my dating adventures. Or more commonly, my I-do-not-wish-to-date-this-person adventures.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 23:57 UTC

I'm at the stage where I'm gathering info on the different apps into a spreadsheet so I can decide which one to use

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 23:45 UTC

*dognity

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 22:12 UTC

have you taken a screen capture yet? because I have.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 22:11 UTC

I will. I'll be obnoxious about it.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 22:04 UTC

I'm confident that I speak for all of Bluesky: we are so happy to see how happy it makes you

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 20:23 UTC

Sometime I'll talk about touch deprivation. People...people don't know. Actually, more of them do now, having been through the pandemic. There are many dimensions to loneliness, but being touch-starved is a monster.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 20:19 UTC

No need to apologize! People typically aren't distressed by the hug emoji. That is an abnormal response I have there.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 20:16 UTC

Thanks, though even that emoji makes me cringe. Every time. I do not like being touched without permission. Even emoji touched. I am not mad at you. There is no reasonable way anyone could deduce that. Just letting you know exactly how touch starved I am.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 20:15 UTC

No, I've been on and off dating websites for decades, I know. What I'm really saying: the best way to demonstrate who I am is through writing. And I am most attracted to other people who are gifted with words.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 20:12 UTC

and this is probably TMI, but after a certain number of years without sex, you stop caring about the details. My last relationship ended a decade ago. I'd be happy with a hug.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 20:10 UTC

The writing-scape I crave would be the best way to share my personality with others, but I can answer multiple choice questions if I gotta

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 20:09 UTC

I'm willing to pay. The single biggest regret of my life is not having someone to love, so I figure that's worth a little bit of extra money. But not everyone pays, and I want them in my consideration pool, too.

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 19:55 UTC

that describes Bluesky when you and I met, so

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Jessica Zellers @stellagarp.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 10, 2024 at 19:53 UTC

OKCupid is the one I'm most familiar with. I had a terrific profile there a few years ago. I'll probably go back to it for that reason... but trying to answer this question by using review websites was not working.

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