I know where the “Say No To Doomerism!” is coming from, but I want folks to make sure they aren’t slipping into some toxic positivity remix.
Shock and sadness are among the reasonable responses to the situations we face.
And those feelings can exist with others, it’s not always either/or… 1/
Bluntly, the fear of us “say no to doomerism” people is that people stuck in despair won’t be reliable allies when they’re actually needed. This is Captain Obvious stuff I am sure but it needs to be stated.
I've noticed a lot of the "Say no to doomerism" people get very annoyed if you point out that they don't really have anything to offer right now other than "Don't worry, be happy!".
Not all of them only have that, but still a significant number.
I am very anti-doomer. I totally get venting, but a lot of stuff I see online doesn't come from a place of needing to vent, but rather positivity and looking on the bright side are seen as cringe. I don't know if we have the luxury of despair right now tbh.
It is a real skill to usher people through times like this. I would compare it to the facilitators who run new mom groups, and to what I see some Black women do in their communities. I am so steeped in white supremacy that I cannot even identify what this skill is, but I know it when I see it. /1
Folks want to make sure others don’t get stuck in the despair of the moment. That the shock/sadness/fear don’t keep people from taking action. I get it.
But pushing too hard on the “if you feel this you are part of the problem/a tool of the oppressors” is unkind to those feeling real feelings… 2/