One reason powerful people get so upset about "speaking ill of the dead" is that deep down, they know that how they're remembered (or not remembered) is all they'll have after they die, after the money and power is gone.
Amazed I never found a way to vocalize this, but you absolutely hit the nail on the head.
Don't speak ill of the dead is a symptom of seeing one's reflection. I love it.
Celebrate his demise in the streets. Loudly. Excitedly. With songs and chants never to be forgotten. With jokes, joy, and banners.
Show the rest of them what awaits their legacies.
Even when one of best friends died at age 20, it appalled me to hear him eulogized as if was a deity or something. As a close friend, I was aware of his complex personality, and I was grieving for all of him, the good and the bad.
I would want people to remember me at my most assholeness just as much as at my best.
Speak bad about me all they want.... as long as they speak truthfully.
Or as Andy Warhol put it, the worst part of dying is knowing somebody will go through your stuff.
There is great comfort in being an atheist, and knowing you won't care about anything in death.
I think one of the most interesting parts of this is watching the powerful become unraveled in the face of their own mortality. That all of the riches in the world does not stop the inevitable.
Everyone has exactly the same opinion on this — it's OK to talk shit on the dead if they sucked and not OK if they were cool.
If people want to defend Kissinger, they should defend him! It's so tedious to have pundits issuing these 'principled' takes they patently don't believe.
Every hagiographic retelling of the lives of people who've committed acts of evil serves to comfort the evil that still lives with us, reassuring them that they, too, will be remembered fondly in newspapers and in history.
OSC is otherwise a piece of shit, but I do agree with his opinion that the most respectful way to remember someone is to be utterly honest about how they chose to live their life. Kissinger made a lot of evil choices and harmed a lot of people. That's who he was.
imagine all the shit talking that'll happen when Rupert Murdoch kicks the bucket. He's definitely up there with Kissinger as a net negative on humanity.
The narrative power of public philanthropy to overwrite decades of horrible behaviour is remarkable tho. The rich and powerful who do not choose that escape route are very odd.
I'm betting now his family and friends are looking at all this and looking at keeping his grave on private land and foregoing public funerals.
He really should be cremated and his ashes thrown into the sea, like Adolf Eichmann.