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Aviva Blakeman@actuallyaviva.bsky.social |
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author of kissing books (most recently: Hot Lumberjack shorturl.at/EIPW5 )snark enthusiast, confirmed spinster, anxiety aficionado, fangirl, she/her
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Aviva Blakeman
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Did you have the most mondayest Wednesday ever? Or did you just cuss a lot. I did both. But hey I hope you remembered your meds and maybe had some water and moisturized something!
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Aviva Blakeman
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You know that feeling of creeping doubt? The one that says you suck? Yeah, mate, that’s a lie. Your brain is being a jerk. So tell it to fuck off. Maybe not in front of people though. Oh and take your meds and have water. Lotion something.
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Aviva Blakeman
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Fed is better than hungry, okay? That means some days you totally get to eat whatever makes a meal even if you think it’s unhealthy. I am proud of you for remembering to, taking your meds (even if it’s just now) and having some water.
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Aviva Blakeman
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There is no in between. They think we’re either spooky goth or pastel goth or whimsigoth. What is this nuance we speak of? Who has multitudes?
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Aviva Blakeman
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I’m glad, ear infections and UTIs are no fun so three at once must be the absolute worst! (I am having the weird ear thing that happens with sinus stuff sometimes where they won’t pop for the past few days which is not the same but it also sucks so I have all the sympathy)
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Aviva Blakeman
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I AM SO GLAD I CAN HELP! (Also I hope you recover quickly and easily)
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Aviva Blakeman
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Hey thanks for being great. Also take your meds and have water and moisturize and remember you’re allowed to do whatever makes you feel better as long as it’s not murder. Or you know, arson. Or something someone’s gonna make a podcast over.
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Aviva Blakeman
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Listen. Some days you just have to embrace that the world is terrible and you’re overwhelmed so you eat your feelings. That was me yesterday and today. Tomorrow is different. ‘Member your meds, have some water, moisturize your face.
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Aviva Blakeman
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I’m really proud of you. You’re doing your best and that’s hard sometimes. Don’t forget your meds and water and moisturize. Tomorrow isn’t going to suck, okay? I promise.
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Aviva Blakeman
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This is your permission to celebrate that you are a perfect example of you-ness. Of everything you may be, you’re a damn good one. So take care of you and have some water while you take your meds. You are an example of excellence.
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Aviva Blakeman
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Good job, overachiever! You made it all the way through Wednesday and I bet you even did some stuff! That’s huge! Now be sure you took your meds for today and have some water so you can have even more fun tomorrow!
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Aviva Blakeman
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Odetta has a tumor on her bladder and a tumor on her adrenal gland. Also high blood pressure which isn’t unexpected with the thyroid situation. I’m looking into options while also being very aware that she’s eighteen and quality of life is a thing. She’s acting just fine. I am very much not okay.
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Aviva Blakeman
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Odetta is safely at the vet. She’ll be getting an ultrasound sometime this morning. Send good thoughts that it’s straightforward and they don’t have to do a full abdominal or take cultures. Also she had to fast so she’s cranky as hell.
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Aviva Blakeman
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This is your daily reminder that you deserve good things in your life. Yes you. Yes really. So do something good for yourself (even if it’s small) and then take your meds. And have some water. Look at that—that’s three good things right there!
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Aviva Blakeman
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Spite would be on brand 😅
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Aviva Blakeman
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UPDATE: they couldn’t find anything so did an X-ray and she has a mass in her bladder that could just be red blood cells or could be cancer so we’re going back on Wednesday for an ultrasound 🙃
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Aviva Blakeman
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IT IS SO NERVE WRACKING
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Aviva Blakeman
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Look at you, walking around like you don’t know what you did. You know what you did, today? Honey you did GREAT. Just great. I am so proud. Now make sure you took your meds and have some water before bed!
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Aviva Blakeman
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Also thank you to everyone—you’ve been so incredibly supportive and we’re both grateful even if she’s being anxious)
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Aviva Blakeman
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Semi-daily ‘Dette: “Hooman, why for you hate the Dette? What dids I do to you? Why you make old ladies go to forced tortures? Is bad, Hooman.” (She’s literally shaking under this towel.)
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Aviva Blakeman
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It’s that kind of day where you have no less than four computer screens up and live—that’s three laptops and a monitor. Better have some water. But hey, Odetta has an appointment this afternoon, it’s a short week, and things are better than they were yesterday.
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Aviva Blakeman
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Your day can be full of sunshine but if you’re carrying a bucket of crap it’s going to, well, seem full of crap. So put down your crap bucket and look around—you’re not as alone as you think you are. Oh and take your meds. Have water.
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MashedBex ✨
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i need a flood of $10s/$20s/$30s to come my way right now.
my lights are being disconnected tomorrow.
my rent is officially 2 months overdue tomorrow - they're sending a 2nd notice tmrw.
please help me to stop both. i am drowning. i am reaching out for help.
please 🙏🏽
paypal.me/thelongestroad
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Janel Comeau
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"we never used to have all these women in their 30s suddenly getting diagnosed with ADHD" listen, I wouldn't have even noticed I have ADHD if I lived in an era where my doctor could ask if I want to lose 5lbs and then hand me enough amphetamines to see the face of God
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Aviva Blakeman
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Thanks, I just really hate feeling so powerless
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Aviva Blakeman
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Alternate names include: Our Lady of the Butt Scritchies; Odetta, SERIOUSLY?!; and WHAT KITTY?
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Aviva Blakeman
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(Incidentally if anyone is feeling generous my PayPal is @ actuallyaviva and trust me it makes my teeth itch to even put that out there) in case you’ve not met The Dette, here you go:
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Aviva Blakeman
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Odetta has another UTI. I just sent my mom a text asking for vet money because this is my rent paycheck. It’s really hard to lean into delusional optimism when your furbaby is sick.
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Aviva Blakeman
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Be the being of pure chaos you wish to see in the world. Make it weird. Be so unhinged no one knows if you’re going to crazy-laugh, velociraptor screech, or do cartwheels. But make sure you remember your meds and have some water and moisturize!
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Aviva Blakeman
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Happy Friday, you! You made it all the way through and you didn’t set anything on fire (I’m assuming) I am so proud of you! Now, did you have your meds and take some water?
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Aviva Blakeman
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Be the light you want to see in the world. Maybe you’re an angler fish night light. Maybe you’re a Molotov cocktail. Totally up to you. But don’t forget your meds. Also have some water and moisturize. Lights gotta shine. That’s what the moisture is for.
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Molly Shah
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Alright I am back at promoting this! It's now updated with ten cool things you can get if you donate to a Gaza fundraiser docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PA…
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Aviva Blakeman
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You’re allowed to militantly guard your joy. There’s a lot to be depressed about right now and any light should be celebrated. Especially if it doesn’t hurt anyone and makes you happy. So find your joy. Protect it. Also take your meds.
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Aviva Blakeman
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*hugs* I hate when that happens
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Aviva Blakeman
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Friendly reminder that just because you’re not lost when you wonder, you still probably need to remember to take care of yourself. So double check you took your meds today and for fuck’s sake drink some water. You’re peaky.
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Aviva Blakeman
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Me, to you: THERE IS NO REASON FOR YOU TO SUFFER IN SILENCE LET A BITCH KNOW IF YOU NEED HELP. Me, to ME: You will survive on ground glass and shame and enjoy laying in the bed of rotten trash you made for yourself, fuck up.
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Dr. Johnathan Flowers, Blade Wielding Bisexual (Lordean arc)
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Not only did Damien warn you, but I wrote an entire chapter for Bloomsbury on Disability and AI that traced this very problem through a variety of GPT integrations from policing to medicine, to pain assessment, to content moderation. It drew on a decade's worth of research to make its argument.
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Mary Sue
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Reminder: Romancing the Vote accepts donations from all genres, not just romance! So if you have some author copies kicking around you'd like out of your house, and to support getting people equitable access to vote in the 2024 US election, this is just a wee suggestion as to what to do with 'em!
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Aviva Blakeman
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Better, I actually picked up a prescription and realized being out of it may actually be part of why I’ve been so down, so that’s something. Hopefully I’m on an upswing
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Aviva Blakeman
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Well I think you just found your new red bubble side hustle
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Aviva Blakeman
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Thank you, friend
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Aviva Blakeman
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Solidarity did depression weekends, I hope your Monday was better 🥰
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Aviva Blakeman
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Thanks, I’m def working through it it just sucks.
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Aviva Blakeman
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Hugs back, it’s going to get better it’s just not great today
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Aviva Blakeman
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Thank you, today is definitely better than yesterday but it’s a slog
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Aviva Blakeman
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If you remember nothing else about today, remember that you were told you are magnificent, and you deserve to be taken care of. Even if you have to do it yourself sometimes. So take your meds. And have some water. For you.
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Aviva Blakeman
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(I’m fine, I’m always fine, I’m just also not good)
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Aviva Blakeman
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It was after my second nap of today that my brain went “yep. Yep, this is a depression, not just executive dysfunction.” Oh and rejection sensitivity is all time high so that’s a fun way to exist. I know exactly why but there’s not a lot I can do about it and also it feels like everything sucks .
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Aviva Blakeman
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It takes less dollars than you think to buy a stress ball shaped like a pooping unicorn on Amazon and more money than you think to legally change your name and scarper off to a new town. Do with this what you will. Oh and take your meds.
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Aviva Blakeman
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This is also how I introduced five new people to the Mutter Museum and I have no regrets. I gave the whole talk without getting gross about it for the folks with a high squick reflex.
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