ItsMeMaven

Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 07, 2024 at 14:08 UTC

Yeah-- trauma survivors have to live life far more purposefully than others. We have to develop philosophies & use skills & ask for help others don't. And yeah-- it's not fair. But: I'm not gonna NOT show up for the people, pets, & causes I love just because "it's not fair."

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 07, 2024 at 14:08 UTC

Refinement: The latter. Use your money for more yarn or fiber or cute boots.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 07, 2024 at 14:08 UTC

The latter.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 06, 2024 at 17:07 UTC

The standard is set so low, and yet being polite escapes some folks.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 06, 2024 at 13:04 UTC

I have also personally experienced walking in public upset & tearing up, and people just leave you alone.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 06, 2024 at 13:02 UTC

Especially starting any interaction with a Parisian with “bonjour.” A well placed bonjour, merci, and bonne journée can really make a huge impact.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 04, 2024 at 22:34 UTC

…I am already grieving the loss of community & ready in person access to those friends. And only time will tell whether those friendships can be sustained once the cord is finally cut.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 04, 2024 at 22:33 UTC

…but that might be hoping for too much. I am feeling all manner of feelings, but mostly disappointment & sadness that I felt this was my only option to change my situation—I had to basically burn everything down. I am just leaving the job NOT abandoning the friendships I cultivated; however…

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 04, 2024 at 22:29 UTC

When I was in the office yesterday, 2 of my managers were in-house & neither acknowledged me. Tomorrow will be my last day in the office & I’ll be using some leave accruals until I am off payroll on the 17th. I’m hoping tomorrow will be a productive day & hope for no further indignations…

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 01:25 UTC

On an airplane when the oxygen masks fall from the ceiling you gotta put yours on first. Do what you have to do.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 01:07 UTC

I know how hard this is, and I know the reality of telling her you’re done with her bullshit—she only hears what she wants. Do what you need to do to preserve your emotional well being❤️❤️❤️

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 01, 2024 at 20:18 UTC

The trap of learned helplessness is a horrible maladaptive coping mechanism. I’ve struggled w/it for 50+ years. I’m NOW prioritizing my health & wellbeing. In a matter of 21 days I made the quick & radical choice to retire early from a toxic environment. I hope retirement will be transformative!

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 30, 2024 at 23:09 UTC

By my estimation that will be 24 hours of assembling, possibly 6 fights with whomever is helping you, and the lingering doubt afterwards when you see all the leftover hardware.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 30, 2024 at 22:40 UTC

I love how much fun you have with clothes!

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 29, 2024 at 00:01 UTC

Misery can be a great catalyst for change. I am grateful for the cruelties which led to me being proactive & do what I need to do for my health, happiness & well-being. I hope the next phase of my life will be transformative. The chats w/friends have been truly beautiful.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 28, 2024 at 23:57 UTC

I made the radical decision to retire 21 days ago started the process to retire. My last day will be 7/5. A lot of negative stuff was in the decision making process; however, every day I’ve made time to have really meaningful conversations w/each of the friends I have made in my 22 yrs on the job. ❤️

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 27, 2024 at 01:08 UTC

Feel better soon🌹🌹

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 26, 2024 at 12:18 UTC

I used it as part of my pain management plan for some tendinitis that was resistant to other treatments. They draw your blood, they get the platelets and using an ultrasound to locate the exact spot to inject the platelet rich plasma.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 26, 2024 at 03:00 UTC

I have had it done. I didn’t find it excessively painful; however, insurance usually doesn’t cover it, and it can be pricey. I got a lot of benefit out of it.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 26, 2024 at 02:54 UTC

PRP can be helpful! Feel better soon🌹

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 25, 2024 at 13:41 UTC

Any time I need a boost to my mood I listen to him yodel. Truly wonderful!

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 24, 2024 at 18:48 UTC

I am going to make a lasagne too, and my cheats: layers of fresh ravioli, layers of good quality store bought bolognese, smoked ricotta & assortment of other cheeses.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 24, 2024 at 18:39 UTC

Oh and today, day 10 before my last day, my office manager felt compelled to email me my copy of my evaluation in May where they eviscerated me. How can I not view this as some passive aggressive attempt at one final insult before my last day?

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 24, 2024 at 00:48 UTC

Jardin Luxembourg! Check out the Medici Fountain, and have lunch at Terrasse de Madame. The Panthéon is nearby too. And if you have time check out the tapestries at The Cluny Museum.

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 24, 2024 at 00:36 UTC

11 more days!!

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ItsMeMaven @itsmemaven.bsky.social [ View ] Jun 23, 2024 at 20:10 UTC

I am retiring now, and at the top of the long list of reasons justifying doing it now is because I don’t feel safe in my workplace. I am the last person who hasn’t normalized it.

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