Listen, NYT, it's real simple: when I'm entering someone's home, and they ask me to take off my shoes, then I take off my shoes. Because it's their home, and I'm a guest in their home. And when you're in someone's home, you respect their home. This isn't a complicated matter.
I tend to agree as a matter of manners and being a considerate guest. However, I've reached a stage of my diabetes where it's not safe for me to go around w/o shoes. It's a conundrum for me as to what to do if that occurs. My one friend whose family all goes without shoes doesn't care if I don't.
We picked up the shoeless habit fm living in Japan.
But I will not ask guests to take off shoes because my role as a host to help them find a comfort zone.
True guests will see we're not wearing shoes and will take off theirs to be polite.
We have light-colored bamboo floors, and everyone who comes in asks us if we want them to take off their shoes. It’s quite remarkable. (For the record, we don’t care).