Courtney Milan

Romancing the Vote @romancingthevote.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 21:17 UTC

I was going to wait, but since I've got the livestream up and running, I figured I'd share the fun.

Head over to youtube and you, too, can watch the bidstream live as the knives come out and the friendships are shattered.

Less than 3 hours to go!

www.youtube.com/watc...

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 21:12 UTC

I understand completely. I think people mean well. I'm not holding grudges, just trying to draw a boundary so I can get my two big things done today.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 21:09 UTC

Thank you for your understanding.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 21:09 UTC

Addition: I don't want to argue; I don't want to be quoted or tagged into arguments. I mean it.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 21:08 UTC

Hey, my saying that I don't want to argue about this because it's triggering includes not being quoted into arguments about this. Thank you for understanding.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 21:02 UTC

But every time something like this happens I remember, cool, cool, lucky me, my abuser wasn't nearly as good at abuse as most of the other ones and the mask slipped a few too many times.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 21:01 UTC

One last thing: I'm extremely aware that the reason my life was not ruined by telling my story about Kozinski is that pretty much nobody liked and supported him. I have some pretty intense survivor guilt around that that...really isn't anyone's but mine to manage.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 20:47 UTC

Thanks for listening. Now I have stuff to do and I'm going away.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 20:45 UTC

I have explicitly said that people are being triggering about this and I don't want to argue about it. If you argue, I'm blocking.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 20:43 UTC

I did not ask for someone to explain this to me. In fact, I explicitly asked for people to not do so.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 20:42 UTC

I have a lot on my plate right now. Coming forward to media and telling a story even about minor misconduct was incredibly hard. And some of you are being *intensely* triggering.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 20:38 UTC

Not asking anyone to speak. Just saying, that if you do speak, and you speak loudly and repeatedly, you're actually not being a neutral "let's wait and see" person.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 20:37 UTC

Incredibly disappointing.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 20:37 UTC

I'm not interested in arguing with people who have been doing this. Please understand that the thing I think you're accomplishing, wittingly or not, is making people with stories feel like they can't come forward.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 20:35 UTC

And you know, if you do the latter, my trust level in you just dropped by a lot.

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Courtney Milan @courtneymilan.com [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 20:35 UTC

My personal feeling is that in cases of sexual assault "I'm going to wait to see what else develops" is a fine, but if you loudly announce that what you're seeing is inadequate and not enough and should not be believed by anyone, that's not waiting to see what else develops.

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