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Matthew the #ActuallyAutistic Coach

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I build international neuro-affirming autistic communities thru empowering my fellow autistic humans with advocacy & self-care tools for navigating an NT world based on productivism.

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Exactly

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Spots still available in my upcoming workshop for #AuDHD adults looking for tools for navigating the world with two navigation systems

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anyway hereโ€™s a baby raccoon sleeping in a hammock

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Disabled humans who are victims of discrimination often need to document and create long journals of the process of events regarding our discrimination. For โ€œthe recordโ€. To be recognized. It causes even MORE trauma. Itโ€™s an ableist practice.

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My experience isnโ€™t dissimilar to yours - diagnosed at the same age and mainly a cause of pain and difficulty. Thatโ€™s the point. People think those of us who speak about it being hard are ableist. Itโ€™s the opposite.

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life as an autistic human can be nothing more than crying and wondering why the world is the way it is pain it's not always a superpower - it's not usually, even it's a disability and there is light, hope, and beauty at the same time

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As a late identified autistic human you are allowed to have grief over your past while also being proud of you are & not wanting to change. Understanding that one is autistic can be both exciting and painful - an array of emotions. Having nuance doesnโ€™t make you an ableist.

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ืื™ืŸ ืกื•ืฃ ืœื“ืžืขื•ืชื™ื™ ื•ื–ื” ืขื•ื“ ื™ื•ืชืจ ืžืชืกื›ืœ ืฉืื™ืŸ ื“ืžืขื•ืช ืคื™ื–ื™ื•ืช ื”ืŸ ื‘ืœืชื™ ื ืจืื•ืช ื™ืฉ ืœื™ ืจืง ืืช ื›ืื‘ื

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ืื™ืŸ ืฉืžื—ื” ืืœื ื‘ืฉื‘ืช

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Do you see being disabled and neurodivergent as being part of the queer experience thru the lens of Queer Theory? If so, how and why? If not, why not? Note - This isn't a question asking if all autistic and disabled people are homosexual, bisexual, gender non-conforming, trans, enby, etc

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ืื ื™ ื—ื•ืœื ืขืœ ืฉืœื•ื ื ืคืฉื™ืช ืจื•ื—ื ื™ืช ื›ืœื›ืœื™ืช ืคื•ืœื™ื˜ื™ืช ืกืชื ืฉืœื•ื ืœืคืขืžื™ื ืžืจื’ื™ืฉ ืœื™ ืฉืฉื›ื—ื ื• ืฉืื ื—ื ื• ื›ืืŸ ื›ื“ื™ ืœื—ื™ื•ืช ื‘ืฉืœื•ื ืœื ื‘ืืœื™ืžื•ืช ื ืคืฉื™ืช ืจื•ื—ื ื™ืช ื›ืœื›ืœื™ืช ืคื•ืœื™ื˜ื™ืช ืกืชื ืฉืœื•ื

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When we go into Autistic Burnout we lose to ability to suppress our autistic traits via camouflaging & masking to the same extent.

Oftentimes, new traits โ€œcome outโ€, that we werenโ€™t aware of before.

Has this been your experience? What were they?

#AskingAutistics

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ืœืžื” ืื ื™ ืฆืจื™ืš ืœืฉืžื•ืข ืขืœ ื–ื” ืฉื ื”ื’ ืžื•ื ื™ืช ื ืชืŸ 2500 ืžื–ื•ืžืŸ ืœื—ื™ื™ื? ื•ืฉื“ื•ื“ื• ื—ื™ื™ื‘ ืœื• 75,000 ืฉื— ื•ืคืจืก ืืช ื–ื” ืœ4 ืฆืณืงื™ื? ืœืžื” ืžืขื ื™ื™ืŸ ืื•ืชื™ ืฉื™ื•ืกื™ ื‘ื‘ื™ืช ืงืคื” ืžืจื•ื•ื™ื— ื™ื•ืชืจ ืžื—ื‘ืจ ืฉืœื• ? ื”ื“ื™ื‘ื•ืจ ื”ื–ื” ืœื ื‘ื™ืงื•ืจืช ืขืœ ื”ื›ืœื›ืœื”, ืืœื ืกืชื ื“ื™ื‘ื•ืจ ืขืœ ื›ืกืฃ ืœืžืขืŸ ืœื“ื‘ืจ ืขืœ ื›ืกืฃ

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ืžืŸ ื”ืกืชื ื›ืŸ. ื”ื‘ืขื™ื” ืฉืœื™ ื™ื•ืชืจ ื”ื“ืจืš ืฉืžื“ื‘ืจื™ื ืขืœ ื–ื”. ื‘ืื’ืจืกื™ื‘ื™ื•ืช

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ื–ื” ื‘ื˜ื•ื—. ื•ืื ื™ ื›ืžื•ื‘ืŸ ื—ืœืง ืžื”ืžืฆื™ืื•ืช ื”ื–ืืช. ื’ื ืงืฉื” ืœื™ ื›ืžื• ื›ื•ืœื. ืื‘ืœ ื›ืฉืžื“ื‘ืจื™ื ืจืง ืขืœ ื–ื” ืื ื™ ืžืจื’ื™ืฉ ืฉื–ื” ื”ื•ืคืš ื”ื›ืœ ืœื™ื•ืชืจ ื’ืจื•ืข. ื›ืฉืื™ืŸ ืœื ื• ื—ื™ื™ื ื—ื•ืฅ ืžื–ื”

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ืื™ืŸ ื›ืžื• ืœืฉื‘ืช ื‘ืื–ื•ืจ ืฉืœ ื ืขื–ืจื™ื ื‘ื ืชื‘ืดื’ ื•ืื ืฉื™ื ืœื ื ื›ื™ื ืžื’ื™ืขื™ื ืขื ื ื›ื™ื ื•ืžืกืชื›ืœื™ื ืขืœื™ื™ ื•ืžื“ื‘ืจื™ื ืขืœื™ื™ ื•ืืคื™ืœื• ืฉื•ืืœื™ื ืื•ืชื™ ืœืžื” ืื ื™ ื›ืืŸ ื•ืฉื–ื” ืœื ื›ื™ื ื‘ืœื‘ื“ (ื•ื”ื ื‘ืขืฆืžื ืœื ื ื›ื™ื ื•ืžืฉืชืžืฉื™ื ื‘ื’ื•ืคื™ื ื ื›ื™ื ื›ื“ื™ ืœื—ืกื•ืš ื–ืžืŸ) ืืคื™ืœื• ื‘ืžืงื•ื ืžื‘ื•ื˜ื— ืœื ื›ื™ื ืื ื™ ืฆืจื™ืš ืœืงื‘ืœ ืฉื™ื˜ ืžืื ืฉื™ื ืœื ื ื›ื™ื ืฉืžืฉืชืžืฉื™ื ื‘ืžืขืจื›ืช ื›ื“ื™ ืœื“ืคื•ืง ืื—ืจื™ื

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ืžื” ื”ืงื˜ืข ืฉื›ืดื› ื”ืจื‘ื” ื™ืฉืจืืœื™ื ืžื“ื‘ืจื™ื ืขืœ ื›ืกืฃ ื›ืกืฃ ื›ืกืฃ ื›ืกืฃ ื›ืกืฃ ื›ืกืฃ ื›ืกืฃ ื–ื” ื ื•ืจืื™ ืื ื™ ืœื ื™ื›ื•ืœ ืœืฉื‘ืช ื‘ื‘ื™ืช ืงืคื”, ืžืกืขื“ื”, ืžื•ื ื™ืช, ืื•ื˜ื•ื‘ื•ืก, ืจื›ื‘ืช, ืฉื•ื ื“ื‘ืจ. ืžื“ื‘ืจื™ื ืจืง ืขืœ ื›ืกืฃ. ืื• ืœืคืขืžื™ื ืขืœ ื ื“ืœืดืŸ ื’ื. ืžื’ืขื™ืœ

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Meltdowns, shutdowns, burnout, masking, and function all exist. But the way we think about them and define them is inherently not according to our own experience. We need a paradigm shift.

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Ariรฉ (pronoun = name) - #FreeThemAll ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆโตฃ๐Ÿชฌ's avatar Ariรฉ (pronoun = name) - #FreeThemAll ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆโตฃ๐Ÿชฌ @ariemoyal.com
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The enemy of Jewish people and of Palestinians (and of Jewish Palestinians) is the same: โšช๏ธ Christian imperialism

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Most of the terms that are used to describe autistic inner experience were coined by allistic people. Even the ones that werenโ€™t are almost always based in the neuronormative framework of โ€œsocietyโ€.

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ื™ืฉื‘ื ื• ื‘ื—ื“ืจ ืขื ืขื•ื“ ืื ืฉื™ื ื™ืฉื‘ื ื• ืจื—ื•ืง ืื‘ืœ ื”ื™ื™ื ื• ืงืจื•ื‘ื™ื

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Acknowledging those life experiences might force them to rethink their behavior and prejudices and people don't like to realize they might have been wrong and might have wronged others.

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Autistic people are qualified to speak about our lived experience. I donโ€™t know why this is so hard for so many to grasp.

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ื”ื”ื‘ื—ื ื” ื‘ื™ืŸ ืฆืจื›ื™ื ื•ื”ืขื“ืคื•ืช ื™ื›ื•ืœื” ืœื”ื™ื•ืช ืžืืชื’ืจืช. ืื ื—ื ื• ืฆืจื™ื›ื™ื ืœื”ืชืžืงื“ ื‘ืžื” ืฉื—ื™ื•ื ื™ ืžืžืฉ ืœืขื•ืžืช ืžื” ืฉืžื‘ื™ื ื ื—ืžื” ืื• ืฉืžื—ื” (ืœื ืฉื”ื ืœื ื—ืฉื•ื‘ื™ื - ืื‘ืœ ื ื—ื–ื•ืจ ืœืขื ื™ื™ืŸ ื”ื–ื” ืื—ืดื›) ืื ื—ื ื• ืฆืจื™ื›ื™ื ืœื”ืงืฉื™ื‘ ืœื’ื•ืฃ ื•ืœืจื’ืฉื•ืช ืฉืœื ื•. ืžื” ืงื•ืจื” ืื™ืชื ื•?

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ืžื•ืชืจ ืœืš ืœืจืขื•ื“ ืœืคืขืžื™ื ื›ืฉืžืฉื”ื• ื ืคืœื ืงื•ืจื” ื‘ืคื ื™ื

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The liberation found in Queer Theory is helpful with the journey of unmasking as an autistic human. Understanding autistic masking through its lens highlights the complexities of identity and the importance of creating inclusive spaces & a world where we can explore ourselves.

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Distinguishing needs from preferences can be challenging.

Focus on whatโ€™s essential for your well-being vs. what brings comfort or joy.

Listen to your body and emotions.

Whatโ€™s happening?

#ActuallyAutistic

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Autistic humans have more trouble staying asleep and falling asleep than our allistic peers. Solid and consistent sleep is essential for our regulation. Whatโ€™s your relationship with sleep like?

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Autistic humans are often literally invisible to others - especially when we need assistance

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Neurodivergent folx can internalize Neurotypical social and behavioral norms and use them to oppress and abuse other Neurodivergent people. There are many reasons for this. That they have decided (by their choice or not) to perform Neurotypicality doesn't excuse their abuse.

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Special interests arenโ€™t the โ€œweird hobbiesโ€ or โ€œobsessionsโ€ of autistic humans. Theyโ€™re vital for our emotional and physical regulation and well-being. Make time for the โ€œweirdโ€ things that make you โ€œweirdโ€ ๐Ÿ’™

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I know this sounds out there, but Mordecai Kaplanโ€™s Naturalism and general view of Jewish Civilization is totally compatible with a mystical & panentheistic worldview.

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Neurodivergent folx can internalize Neurotypical social and behavioral norms and use them to oppress and abuse other Neurodivergent people. There are many reasons for this. That they have decided (by their choice or not) to perform Neurotypicality doesn't excuse their abuse.

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yep - and I for the life of me don't get how that works for anyone

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I have spent my adult life stressing the need for autistics not to block out allistics from our life - promoting the idea that we don't need to live a life apart - that this world, with everyone in it, has what to offer for us. This is becoming increasingly harder to defend.

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When NTs talk about themselves all day long and we try to empathize with them we are told we are self-centered. When we mention one tiny part of our life to NTs, we are told we are self-centered. When we voice a need to an NT, we are told we are self-centered. Interesting.

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Trolling is a sign of deep dysregulation

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Stim Punks is the best resource for this kind of stuff

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Yes, masking is about taking on identities of those around us. Masking is harmful. We also create our masks and imbue them with prices of our true selves, like any author. The challenge isnโ€™t simply to โ€œunmaskโ€, but reveal the true piece of ourselves in our masks too.

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Just a reminder that Indigenous people protect the majority of the worldโ€™s biodiversity and that land back is a solution to both the climate crisis and mass extinction.

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I find myself getting very salty about the infantalization of autistic people, and this is coming from someone who loves whimsy and plushies. I don't want fidgets, I want accomodations. I don't want a flower lanyard, I want dignity if I'm struggling in public because I'm a person.

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I never want to hear either of these newspapers sniggering at North Korean coverage of Kim Jong Il ever again. The Mail's 'the sun behaved on cue and the world world spoke in unison' is particularly batshit.

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I donโ€™t want affordable healthcare. I want free universal healthcare. Thereโ€™s a difference.

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