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Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez@aoc.bsky.social |
Honestly having a really strong understanding of your walk-away point & what you’re willing to accept or not (and sticking to it!) is so helpful. A lot of situations/people will push to see how little you’ll accept, but they can & will accommodate more. Happens in politics all the time but life too
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Douglas Reyes-Ceron
@dreyesceron.bsky.social
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I ended a friendship with a childhood friend of +20 years recently because of this exact spot I was in and I finally had enough of their pushing of the boundaries Weeks have gone by and I truly have no regrets realizing my foot had to come down and draw a line somewhere
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Patrick Iber
@patrickiber.bsky.social
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Have you ever read Hirschman’s essay on “Exit, Voice, and Loyalty”, referring to options when dealing membership organizations? One of those pieces that has never left me
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🇵🇸 Purlane
@purlane.ink
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Glad you have that kind of emotional intelligence. Really important in your line of work I assume
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dillo (the yakubian mamba)
@dillo.media
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plz aoc follow @farnerb0cken.bsky.social
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Chris
@chrisrisner.com
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This is a great point. Without thinking about it we're often pushed, slowly but surely, way beyond what we're worth and what we'd accept it we'd just stop and think about it
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Anastasia (Max)
@subspaceteatime.bsky.social
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Good advice, glad we have folks like you to keep fighting the good fight.
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JJ
@psychguy.bsky.social
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Our backs are sometimes the only thing some will ever see. The entitlement to anything else need not be taken up by those with the strength to turn them.
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AfterTheHavoc
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I've heard it referred to as a Schelling fence-a boundary up to which you can slide, but beyond which is not worth it to your goals. That and a sense of what you can get away work well together, especially against people without a goal in mind. Whatever's going on, take 'em for all they're worth.
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Belinda Teaches
@belinda.bsky.social
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Yup a lot of good things happen when you're willing to walk away.
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hammancheez
@hammancheez.bsky.social
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BATNA is life
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The RuQus
@ruqus.bsky.social
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Many variables to balance in defining that baseline. My general rule is Everyone gets *screwed a little or it’s not a workable outcome.
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Reb MacRath
@rebmacrath.bsky.social
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Great advice. Thank you.
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Daniel Aegan - Hot Villain Summer
@danielaegan.bsky.social
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Can we be pals?
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Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez
@aoc.bsky.social
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(Sorry this sounds vague atm but it’s inspired by work related events and I’m up to no good, per usual)
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Dan in his mensch era
@dvgeebees.bsky.social
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We all have a walk-away point that's why we joined this beautiful place
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Jeremy
@awedjeremy.bsky.social
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❤️ this is a fundamental principle of sales negotiations too.
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Burger
@burg3rtime.bsky.social
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Had an in law who was a big time executive. When people asked her things inappropriate she would just say “boundaries”. I was always amazed with how well it worked.
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Brandy Schillace
@bschillace.brandyschillace.com
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As an author, I thought I wouldn’t need this as much as I did in the work world. I was wrong. Sometimes I need it more.
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Kerim Friedman 傅可恩
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I love this book and recommend it to everyone. Yes, the language is a bit dated, but it also sounds like the way an older generation of New Yorkers talked so I find that a bit comforting as well. In any case, it is a useful guide for people who've never had to negotiate something before.
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Rachel H 🏳️⚧️
@rachelh.bsky.social
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I'd been teetering, but as soon as he promoted that Matt Walsh garbage. That site was dead to me.
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Sebastian
@seabass.bsky.social
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May work in politics but doesn’t work with my 3y old.
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Jeff Tiedrich
@jefftiedrich.bsky.social
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illegitimi non carborundum
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Robby
@rihannafreak20.bsky.social
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Happy to see you post here and all the cons not coming for you
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Dr. JMW
@mixedmethodsmaven.bsky.social
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So true and so tiring. … just wasting time.
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Max Kennerly
@maxkennerly.bsky.social
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It seems like such a simple thing, but really thinking through your BATNA ("Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement") can make a huge difference in negotiating. And honestly some of my best results came from approaching the whole process with the Office Space mindset.
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Officerjackboot
@officerjackboot.bsky.social
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Negotiation must be brutal because the GoP driving force right now is screaming about wokeness, transphobia and calling everyone a pedophile. It's madness.
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Zane
@m3troboy.bsky.social
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As we get a little older our tolerance to deal with bs decreases dramatically, wait until you hit your 40s.
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Murshed Zaheed
@murshedz.bsky.social
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Always gotta push from inside no matter what. People who stop doing it once they reach the inside, they lose their souls.
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💕💚 Thee Glitch (she/her) 🧚🏿♀️🎶✨
@theeglitch.bsky.social
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Yep, great advice and applies to so many things.
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Sarah Parcak, Book Writing Madness
@indyfromspace.bsky.social
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Creating that line in the sand is so hard, and so so empowering. It gets you what you need/want, and anything less can go in peace. This 44yo Xennial Prof wishes you only joy and happiness.
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Devin 😎
@notesfromdevin.bsky.social
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Missed you. 🫶🏾
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Senator Megan Hunt
@meganhunt.bsky.social
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 Being willing to walk away gives you the most power 
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Senator Megan Hunt
@meganhunt.bsky.social
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Yup
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MKG
@mkg.bsky.social
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Your walk away point is tied to your values and when you encounter a collision of values, it’s time to either pivot, flip the script, or walk. Diplomacy doesn’t alter your values. It uses your values as a lever you lean on to strengthen and raise the weight on the other side of that fulcrum.
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Smokey The Ghost
@smokeytheghost.bsky.social
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So valuable this
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Evan 🌎 🔴
@erude.bsky.social
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Boundaries!! So important in all relationships.
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Protractor Dumbledore
@teacher.bsky.social
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As a teacher (in your district) I know this all too well lol.
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@hasandemirci.bsky.social
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FOLLOW ME
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