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Meredith Rose @mrose.ink [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 16:08 UTC

This site’s got the juice

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 16:14 UTC

me

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 15:58 UTC

I THINK they thought we let someone bury a random person there and add their name to the stone without the family's permission

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 13:54 UTC

does he do telehealth

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 13:27 UTC

i think talk therapy might be a benefit to me at this current point in my life but i would rather gnaw off my own leg than experience the process of attempting to find a therapist

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 13:25 UTC

if there's an afterlife i hope i get to meet some of the people buried here that i only ever got to read about

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 12:46 UTC

i had to go dig through the OLD vault for the burial paperwork from the 60s to prove she signed it and what her relationship to him was

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 12:42 UTC

the guy literally had the same last name as their grandma's maiden name

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 07:26 UTC

me arriving to work in 5 hours

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 07:19 UTC

me in 2.5 hours when my alarm goes off and i haven't slept a wink bc my brain hates me so so so much

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 12:07 UTC

people accuse us of the weirdest shit

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 12:06 UTC

last week a family came in like, preemptively mad and asked if we buried someone in their lot and added their name to the stone bc they had never seen the name and none of them recognized it, and clearly implied we had done something untoward and then it turned out it was just their grandma's uncle

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 12:02 UTC

the problem is that there's no guarantee that somewhere along the line, some random heir won't show up and want to use the space, especially with how interested everyone is in their genealogy now

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:59 UTC

it's held in the name of the original owner in perpetuity but their heirs can use it at any time. we can't consider it "unclaimed property" at any point which honestly fucking sucks

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:58 UTC

some of these families are so old and massive now that getting EVERY heir would be an insurmountable task. for some things (like wanting to remove and replace the original monument) we do require signatures from everyone or at least a majority of heirs

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:56 UTC

we only really need one UNLESS other family members object but also part of signing off is you saying "i prommy there is no one who will object to this" so if you lied to us that's on you

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:54 UTC

everyone is going to hate this one

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:52 UTC

"i should be able to act however i want in a cemetery bc everyone there is dead anyway"

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:49 UTC

the funny thing is per massachusetts law, once the original owner dies, burial rights in the lot pass down to their descendants and are irrevocable so guess what? unless you made specific instructions governing the rest of the lot forever and ever, your family can still go in there lmao

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:45 UTC

you can tell when they were really getting off on it too bc there will be a dozen letters saying "i have changed my list of people i will allow to be buried there, again" and you can tell it's when their son pissed them off or something and got kicked out as punishment

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:42 UTC

it used to be a huge deal to own the family grave plot and get to decide who is allowed to be buried there. (it still is but not to the same extent.) there's files where the patriarch of the family or w/e was such a miserable asshole that everyone told them to fuck off and now they're in there alone

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:37 UTC

most people can't see it right there in front of them like we can :(

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:36 UTC

i can and i am lol

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:35 UTC

people don't even have a practiced signature anymore. mine has changed a hundred times in my life lmao

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:35 UTC

i am doing so much more work than the person who had my job 100 years ago and i'm not even making that much more money comparatively

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:32 UTC

there's some real messy shit in those records too. the cemetery kept EVERY correspondence and i mean EVERYTHING

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:30 UTC

people bought these big family lots assuming that their entire bloodline would be buried there bc even the very concept of "family growing up and moving away" was so foreign that they didn't even consider it and now there's only like 3 people in there when they could put 20 more

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:23 UTC

i can't tell you what a mindfuck it is to be able to go through 200 years of documents and see exactly how things were done then compared to how they're done now

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:21 UTC

meanwhile people in all our old records are like "sign and mail it? okey dokey! hell i'll just stop by and sign it in person!"

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:18 UTC

i'm so good at it now bc i had to come up with a new signature once i got married and i just practiced it a thousand times in my notebook like a middle schooler. also i have to actually physically sign things every single day

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:17 UTC

"why do you need my signature??" to prove that it was actually you who did all these things "im giving you verbal permission!" thank you! that will not hold up if there is any kind of problem in the future "how am i supposed to mail it back?? i can't wait that long and i don't even own stamps!!!"

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:13 UTC

thinking about how, in a strange irony, it's now a thousand times harder to get a person's physical signature on a physical document than it was 100 or even 20 years ago because everyone is so used to signing things instantly and virtually that they get mad if you even mention an actual paper form

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:07 UTC

how do i know? i just know okay. he would never lie to me UPDATE: he lied to me,

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:05 UTC

hehe yeah i'm such a dumb little cuck hehe.... i'm a bad little piggy and my truck is so stupid... hahaa...

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 11:03 UTC

i'm just realizing that a dude with a humiliation fetish could probably get A LOT of material out of buying a cybertruck and publicly posting about how bad it sucks

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 10:57 UTC

i'm sorry but this beast looks like autism creature

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 10:55 UTC

she was really mad the comments weren't going her way and said "i shouldn't have mentioned the item was a bong, everyone is so judgmental, none of you understand my relationship" :/

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 10:52 UTC

lady on fb like "my cat broke my husband's sentimental bong and he wanted me to rehome the cat and my stupid friends keep saying he's abusing me 🙄" and the comments were like "your friends are telling you he's abusing you???"

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cait @cait.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 05, 2024 at 10:46 UTC

there is nothing that people asking the internet for advice hate more than when they try to intentionally misrepresent a situation and the commenters immediately pick up on it anyway

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