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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy@nome.bsky.social |
Shower thoughts: most cis folks never think about their name as a thing they could change. We tend to think of identity as a) received and b) immutable. The running joke about trans/enby folks who change their name is that it's either one syllable, something from nature, or a mythological figure.
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AngelSil
@angelsil.bsky.social
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Interesting. That hasn't been my experience as a cis person. Both myself and those around me are as likely to go by names we fell into (often via internet) rather than were given. I'm "Sil" to a lot of people now. Even as a young kid I went by Andrealyanse for a few years which is not my given name.
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Beans 🇵🇸
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I know a few cis men who go by their middle names (either due to father sharing the name, too many Michaels or Jasons in their circles, etc), and have been in groups where people go by their forum/AIM/gamer handles. And yet so many of them refused to respect a trans person's new name?? idfgi
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Cass Morris
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My parents still struggle with the fact that I go by a different name than the one they gave me, even though I haven't changed it legally. I have tried so hard to express that it's not a rejection of THEM, it's me finding what fits me. And I knew I wanted this name from the time I was 13.
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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy
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BUT, you also get new names when changing cultures. Despite tripping over it, "Andaru-sensei" wasn't the hardest name for my Japanese students to learn, but I couldn't have them call me "Nome," since the closest they could get was "Nomu," which means "is going to drink." So "Andaru-sensei" it was.
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T.C. Aurelius
@aurelius.quest
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This is interesting because I haven't thought of it that way and it hasn't occurred to me that anyone does. If I could have trusted myself to commit to a name I probably would have changed it years ago.
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Nick Taylor
@tienelle.bsky.social
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I know a Harry! But he mostly goes by "Hal".
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Tiger Spot
@tigerspot.bsky.social
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A young cis person I know spent the summer before kindergarten going by “Rainbow Spike Unicorn”. Introduced herself to other kids at the park that way. It was great.
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Christopher Colton
@darktzeratul.bsky.social
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I read a novel once in which the tradition in the protagonist's society is that everyone has two names: their child name that their parents give them, and then their adult name they choose for themselves upon reaching maturity. I always felt that seemed like something people should do in real life.
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Storm Blakley
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one of the best things about my is that it's a noun; not only can I learn it in multiple languages, folks with other languages get to know what I'm *actually* called. So the core part of my name can still be shared, not just the mouth-sound.
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