Moon-faced Assassin of Joy

Kaitlin Has Had Enough @gothamgirlblue.com [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 16:29 UTC

Desegregation is being unraveled. Separate but “equal” is being reestablished. We can be defensive, or we can step up and ask for more than the preservation of the status quo.

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 16:24 UTC

But I've distracted myself long enough - back to work. Cheers all.

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 16:23 UTC

There used to be. Long ago, the four Marshals lived in harmony. But everything changed when the Fire Marshall attacked.

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 16:22 UTC

These thoughts flow to what I want to name potential children. I'm a big fan of multipurpose names - swiss army knives, that can fold out different meanings for purpose. A kid named "Josephine" could be Jo, or Josie, or Sephie, without getting into permutations like "Jojo."

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 16:19 UTC

I was expected to be a girl, and was going to be named after my grandmother, "Grace." With full knowledge of how eggy this is, I'm pretty sure that if I transitioned I'd use that name, both to remember a woman who was dear to me and to commit to the bit of the plan working, just taking a while.

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 16:16 UTC

You should fuck around and add "Grand," "Air," or "Fire" there on government documents, just go wild.

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 16:15 UTC

Similarly, I don't know who "Andy" is, despite having been that for a solid fifteen years. It's a family name - one for firstborn grandsons going back several centuries. I won't mind passing it on - but I'm weirdly more attached to my surname. It's what I call myself.

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 16:12 UTC

Especially if you're (by your choice, or otherwise) breaking new ground away from your family's culture and traditions. Someone letting the bridges to their evangelical family burn might as well not go to a standard list of biblical baby names.

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 16:11 UTC

But anyway - I wonder if that tendency in Trans names is driven by the desire to pick something that doesn't just resonate with you, but has a meaning that resonates with you... and if you're looking for sources of meaning, Mythology and Nature are two *solid* options.

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 16:07 UTC

That said, I *have* considered adding "Izaea" as a second middle name, to make a recognized part of my identity official.

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 15:59 UTC

If I *had* to pick a new name for myself now, as in the thing the Government calls me, I don't know what I'd pick. There's the trope I mentioned about trans names - there are also a bunch of stereotypical names for Chinese nationals in the US to pick. See: every Vivian I've ever known.

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 15:51 UTC

Oh, for sure - I go into that here:

bsky.app/profile/nome...

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 15:48 UTC

When I had my Inkan made in Japan, I had to translate my name idiomatically to put it into Kanji. It translates to "ancient but virile manly man who dwells under the hill."

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 15:46 UTC

But because I chose "NomeDaBarbarian" as my Playstation network name most of two decades ago, and it's been the easy abbreviation thereof for years. Likewise, I picked "Izaea" for Gaiaonline in 2005. I'm still known by that in several places.

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 15:44 UTC

I think the closest most of us come is in internet communities, where we pick a handle - and then, as often as not, that identity is persistent, both to keep you findable and because it's /yours/ now. I've had a lot of online names, bit I'm Nome here not because it's my name (though it is),

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 15:42 UTC

In the West, or at least the US, there's also the broad prohibition against picking your own nickname. In the words of Frankie Boyle, the response to "Hey guys, you can call me T-dog!" is "Tony, we'll be calling you cuntychops from now on."

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 15:39 UTC

Meanwhile, a roommate in college was Chinese, and she did the standard thing of picking a western name (Wendy), because it was better than having folks who can't hear tone distinction butcher "Oiwa". Likewise a Punjabi neighbor was "A-B," because white folks stumbled over "Ahbinav."

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 15:35 UTC

BUT, you also get new names when changing cultures. Despite tripping over it, "Andaru-sensei" wasn't the hardest name for my Japanese students to learn, but I couldn't have them call me "Nome," since the closest they could get was "Nomu," which means "is going to drink." So "Andaru-sensei" it was.

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Moon-faced Assassin of Joy @nome.bsky.social [ View ] Jul 03, 2024 at 15:29 UTC

Shower thoughts: most cis folks never think about their name as a thing they could change. We tend to think of identity as a) received and b) immutable. The running joke about trans/enby folks who change their name is that it's either one syllable, something from nature, or a mythological figure.

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