...that those of you with higher Diplomacy skill checks can drop into conversation, like oh, hey, Uncle Bob, but did you know that Trump is named and detailed in a CSA case, or that the NYT editor is a fourth-generation nepo baby who had an entire three years on another job...
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Like, I am not good at persuading people, especially anyone who was asshole enough to not be voting Democrat in the first place (I'd say third-party in places like MA, but at this point it seems like your choices are RFK and Jill Stein, and WTF even), because my strategy is...
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…I really think this is the more important presidential-election-related story to have in the news cycle.
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Also interestingly: they couldn't find his dong, so Isis carved him one out of wood.
I am not familiar enough with UK politics to follow this metaphor to its conclusion.
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Eh, I’ll be back to having opinions about Fire Emblem tomorrow. 😀
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...didn't feel a need to have a grand moral confrontation with them about it or stop being their friend or anything. They were a bad SO to the other person at that point in time, their partner reacted, and it's fundamentally none of my business unless actual abuse happened.
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Added, and then I swear I'm going to go be productive: you can even think someone did a kind of shitty thing without having to pass a grand judgment on them as a person. There were many, many breakups where I was like "...yeah, that person was being a dingus, I see why you left," but...
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I think Rand's mistake was thinking "it sucks to be on the wrong end of pity" and conflating that with "so screw the unfortunate" rather than "so maybe have systems to help out so it feels less personal," and also being a shitty person.
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It wasn't the absolute moment I told everyone to get bent, but it was the beginning.
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There was a point in my late 20s where I was the center of a Bullshit Scandal, and I felt really bad for a long time.
And then a friend was like, look, if you keep dressing and flirting and generally acting like you do, people are going to believe this sort of thing. Doesn't mean you should stop.
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OMG yes.
It's also why I am truly uneasy with the idea of marriage: if someone isn't into me, I want him to leave. I don't want him to stay because he feels obligated to. I don't even want him to *try* and stay. I want to know someone's there because he's into me, and won't be if that stops.
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Oooh, yes. I am 100% Full Eowyn about that.
I tend to feel like every extraordinarily shitty person has at least one good idea, and Rand's may have been that one.
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It absolutely does! And conflates not being interested in/liked by everyone with being universally interesting/likeable, which means that a) rejection of the "you are Swiss, I want Limberger" type feels more personal than it is and b) everyone feels awkward saying that.
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Ooof, yeah. I tilt between that and Hello My Life Is An Audience-Calibrated Performance, depending on how much I like the person in question.
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"Everyone wants attention: learn to offer something in exchange."
And that doesn't have to be a capitalism something, it can be your own attention, or knowledge about a subject, or the ability to tell a funny story about that time you put your credit card in the receipt slot at a gas station.
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Yup! Or the...whatever, not Munchausen, but the person who is always a victim, always in crisis, always the half-drowned kitten on the doorstep whenever the spotlight shifts.
IMO it's much better to be like, okay, you want attention, what are healthy ways to get it?
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Right! And I can do some parties, but not big crowds, and also a couple of hours of talking is generally more than enough, even with people I'm close to.
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...and it's even fine to think that Russell from accounting is a grating know-it-all who should eat a hornet, even if he's not A Bad Person (tm). You don't have to construct an entire narrative to justify "ugh, *them*?"
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The adjacent principle, that you can just not like people even if they're not oppressive or predatory, has come up, and I think they're both really important. It's fine to wish someone well and not care about their kids or their car or whatever...
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I really, really want a whole investigation into who these people are, because the country needs to come together to point and laugh at somebody.
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If Biden can make Tom Cruise cry on camera, I'll spend my entire fall knocking on doors in Wisconsin, a state half the country from where I live.
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