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Dawn Xiana Moon
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SORCERY. 😯
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Cheryl_NL@belovedsnail.bsky.social |
1185 followers 985 following 8627 posts
reads, walks & occasionally eats. Likes conversations. Posts pictures of her pets. Designs retail formats. Mentor. Living in the Hague. She/her. 🇳🇱/🇺🇸 Opinions are my own.
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Dawn Xiana Moon
@dawnxianamoon.bsky.social
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SORCERY. 😯
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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I get that it is annoying to have your work dug up by dogs, but seriously! sense of perspective!
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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I ripped them all up and I'm now thinking about writing a note for the volunteer.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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I just took my dogs for a walk and some absolutely unhinged volunteer had protected their flowers around a lamp post by filling the ground around the flowers with sharp pointy sticks, pointed end up. So dangerous for kids and cats and at eye level for any dog who just wants to sniff.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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I heard the Smiths for the first time on a college radio station and the station had request hour daily. I called in so many times for the Smiths that they made a special announcement that they would not honor any more requests for the Smiths and suggested we should not call in every day. lol
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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I need to get out and do stuff. Pfffft
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Lux Alptraum לקס אלפטראום
@luxalptraum.com
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Feminism is a political philosophy about remaking society in such a way that people are no longer discriminated against due to gender. Individual aesthetic choices are neither feminist nor antifeminist, nor are they worth discussing.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Yep.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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And as noted above, most of the predation stayed on the right side of the line. So what was to tell?
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Whisper networks happen when there is a real life consequence for speaking out loud. Two jobs ago there was a senior exec who preyed on interns. Everyone knew the company would not thank you for lifting it (even with proof) so the interns were protected and warned.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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lol. There is some truth here about GenX.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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If you know, you know:
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mikevagomikevago
@mikevago.bsky.social
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I can't find the Onion headline, but it was something like: New Beatles Documentary Shows How Yoko Broke Up Band by Sitting Quietly and Watching Them Fight
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Jim Zub
@jimzub.bsky.social
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This photo is pure 2024.
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Dean Blobaum
@dblobaum.bsky.social
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What are you doing to thwart autocracy? The only question worth discussing.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Exactly.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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My new exciting Friday night: I get back from dinner! I go to bed early! I regret nothing!
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Gwen Snyder is uncivil
@gwensnyder.bsky.social
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Dudes Stop Being Monsters To Women 2024 Challenge
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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The cat love bombs the dog until he gives in and cuddles. I have had her since she was 4 days old. She tolerates me. But she adores him.
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Josh Dobbin
@joshdobbin.bsky.social
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The Neil Gaiman story
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Haircut.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Rainy day vibe.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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The struggle is real.
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Amba Azaad
@ambaazaad.bsky.social
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So I was reading the details about the Gaiman case and boy, howdy does it bring back memories of that one charismatic fuckwit older man who used to be in my life. So many things turn out a pattern in the habits of men with power, don't they. I could write an essay about The Ones Who Weren't Rapists
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Punk Rock History
@punkrockhistory.bsky.social
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45 years ago
Gravest Hits is the first 12" EP by the American rock band the Cramps, compiling both sides of their first two 1978 Vengeance singles, "Surfin' Bird" and "Human, released in July 1979
#punk #punks #punkrock #thecramps #history #punkrockhistory
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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It relies on them being willing to do more for you than the protocol suggests. Fighting protocol with protocol.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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That is true too, but I have found focusing on my quality of life works more often than not.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Doctors have formulas in the lowlands…
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Calm, firm and repeat that Symptom X is interfering with your work and enjoyment of life.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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I am coming to accept I need to wear tights 9/10 of the year here.
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Rory Blank (on vacation)
@roryblank.bsky.social
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spy vs spy redux (2023)
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Oh, and by the way, congratulations to the UK!
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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And I am also thinking about another poster who I blocked because in these cases he would scream that in HIS COUNTRY they believed in rule of law and not trial by Internet. I actually spotted him on Reddit (pretty sure same dude) screaming about this in all the Gaiman threads. Righteous block.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Much less often than the press would have us believe tho. This is not a symmetrical behaviour.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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But generally speaking, large power imbalances are absolutely a turn on for some. But most likely the folks who are wired that way without appropriate therapy or channeling are not great people to fuck.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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And while I do want a 30 year old young person to feel their own autonomy, I also think it is good for them to hear the views of others, and not just through a whisper network. It is complicated, I realise.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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But I doubt he is. For men like that, the power imbalance is part of the point, and as long as they stay just on the right side of legality, they do not see the issue.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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All this to say: 20 year old me was not a reliable witness when it came to consent. Legally speaking, I consented. But in relationship terms, I had brought a croissant to a gun fight, and he should have been ashamed of himself.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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I will not overstate. That relationship did not ruin my life. Not at all. But it did change how I looked at myself. Just a little perhaps, but definitely not for the better.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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About things which I never should have believed him. And weirdly, which some part of me believes (in that time, like a fly trapped in amber) still.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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When I was in the US the last time I was talking about this with someone who had known both of us and the very weird thing about power imbalance is (not surprisingly) credulity and easy trust. Until I said things out loud to her, I had not realised how much I had believed him.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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(He managed to marry another former student just before #metoo so evaded any consequences worse than the whisper network.)
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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But as an adult looking at that very young woman, I 100% believe he should have been outed and fired regardless of what the younger me thought about consent.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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I have only recently started talking about a highly inappropriate relationship I had, which started when I was 20. Even today, I still emotionally feel it as consensual. Mostly because there is a load of guilt associated with it I do not wish to evade.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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1) A very young person may 100% feel a relationship is consensual with an older famous person. This should be respected. 2) others not in the relationship may have a very different view on the relationship between power and consent. This is okay too.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Gaiman adjacent for those of you muting those threads. I had a convo over DM here about age and consent, and this makes me want to say two things which can be true at the same time:
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Morning. My thought on waking is we use the word ‘horrifying’ too often.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Two lightly used cats free to a good home. Occasionally friendly. Opposed to upright dustbins.
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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Me too
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Cheryl_NL
@belovedsnail.bsky.social
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He said something like he had hurt her deeply in some way
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