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Jeph Jacques@ass.golf |
I don’t know if it’s a me thing, or an introvert thing, or an autistic thing, but I really struggle with unexpected social interactions. Like, I can make small talk comfortably if I know it’s coming, but if someone says hi and starts talking to me unexpectedly my brain doesn’t know what to do
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Sarcasmorator
@sarcasmorator.bsky.social
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Oh yeah that social gearbox is grindin’
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@LuLuRoche
@luluroche.bsky.social
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just smile!
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NutMeg
@casuallychaotic.bsky.social
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Apparently throwing whatever drink you happen to be holding at the time in their face before running in circles screaming with your arms in the air isn't considered to be a "polite" response, for some strange reason.
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Laughing.Boy
@laughingboy.bsky.social
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Diagnosed with social anxiety in high school (with overlooked signs of ADHD and likely some ASD), and this is absolutely a thing. Did community theatre in college and after. Friends and family bewildered I could do that but not maintain a chat over the phone. Had to explain how scripts work.
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A. E. Fisher
@bluenoselibrarian.bsky.social
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Oh yeah, this all sounds painfully familiar.
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Jean Cabot
@prairiehamster.bsky.social
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I just think, thank the good lord I'm a Manitoban because there's always the weather if you need something, anything, to talk about. And then they have an actual question and I have to barrel roll out the window.
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Alyssa Eden
@alyssaeden.bsky.social
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When I get with chatty folks, it uses up what energy I have and I try to politely excuse myslef.
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@debrarosenthal.bsky.social
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2/2 TV shows like 60 min for older ppl, sci-fi for younger, music & movies, travel. Practically everyone has been to Florida. Then you mix it all with food. Sounds crazy but ppl love to talk abt the best meal they had traveling. We still laugh $ talk abt experimental dinning experiences frm yrs ago
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@debrarosenthal.bsky.social
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I know what you mean, but here’s the trick (I have lived a non traditional nomadic life always adjusting to other ppl) If you feel safe/comfortable with new person/family etc have your 5 go to’s that you feel secure talking about. Food is universal especially pizza. Makes ppl smile. TV shows 1/2
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Vero
@taeshi.bsky.social
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I find that I’m too worried about not giving the person their needed attention that I can easily chatter away with scripted little small talks…. but in-depth conversations where my brain thinks faster than my mouth??? A lot of buffering happens there 💀
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Rory
@ndgm.bsky.social
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Yeah I usually go into autopilot at that point. It's super uncomfortable.
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Jasper
@pugliacci.bsky.social
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unexpected social interaction triggers instant horrifying anxiety for me. I love social interaction! But surprise interactions are super stressful and suddenly I cannot brain.
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👁kARASU/stocking🌸
@karasuoffical.bsky.social
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i 100% struggle with this. Im a ambivert (leaning on introvert) But also because im genuinely socially anxious.
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- Micaela
@caelarue.bsky.social
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The worst part is when those interactions use up some of your spoons, and you have to start making judicious cuts as to how you spend the rest of your mental energy for the rest of the day.
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Ninjakick
@ninjakick.bsky.social
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One they have run thru all my typical NPC dialog options there is like a 75% chance I'mma just gonna start talking about The Illuminati.
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lacey
@byelacey.bsky.social
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i feel this. like i'm an NPC in a video game sometimes lmao if you engage me on topics i might expect i am fine, but please do not make me go off script and overshare or say something i'll have anxiety about later
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Chris
@ary.bsky.social
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Someone said "stay cool!" instead of like "have a nice day" on the elevator yesterday and I literally locked up and said nothing til they left lmao
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Mal Where
@uh.mallory.wtf
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You would fit in very well in Germany
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Shannon Brescher Shea
@storiteller.bsky.social
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My reaction is usually “who are you and where do I know you from?” I don’t have full face blindness, but I’m really bad at faces and names, so if someone stops and says hi, I’m also mentally scrambling to match context. Especially people from my kids’ school.
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@curry4three.bsky.social
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It's an under 30 years old thing.
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Some call me Tim
@some-call-me-tim.bsky.social
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Like you can I make small talk if I can see it coming, but often I feel ambushed and it short circuit's my brain. I hate small talk; I only have so much mental energy, which feels like half the amount I need to actually function, so I get irritated if someone wastes it talking about the weather.
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McRaeWrites.com
@mcraewrites.bsky.social
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Hi, unexpectedly.
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LoS Draws 🔞
@monsterfucker.bsky.social
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As someone who is a total introvert, but has to be "on" for work and other things, my trick is to turn the conversation back to the person who you are talking to. Ask questions and let them go. People love to talk about their interests and it raises you in their estimation when you listen
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Sommerjam
@sommerjam.bsky.social
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Running into someone I know is even worse for me. I'm Not prepared to be familiar, in some weird way!
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Bruceski
@bruceski.bsky.social
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I've told my friends I need time to shift gears for stuff which I meant as "don't text me saying 'hi we're outside your door'" and they took as "don't wanna do anything ever."
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Dr. Wombat
@aspyre.bsky.social
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Burst into bats!
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Docs
@chwilatte.bsky.social
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so I'm not autistic nor an introvert, but I've adhd, and a few disorders that might influence this, but I feel the same about it. If I initiate the interaction it's fine, but if I'm not already on "talkative mode" and someone initiates a convo my responses will look like my cellkeyboard suggestions
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Jason / Method One
@method1.bsky.social
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I got into djing in the early/mid 90s and played clubs and raves all over the states and Canada. Anyone who really knows me is shocked by that, like it’s my Superman/Clark Kent moment. I think it’s a matter of control —communication happening on my terms, where I don’t have to modulate my weirdness
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K.B. Spangler
@kbspangler.com
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I’m the exact opposite. If it’s spontaneous small talk I can roll with it for thirty seconds and then AWAY! like a superhero. But if I know it’s coming my brain grinds down and I can’t stop thinking about why I’m not…anything.
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King-free💙 America
@belladonna406.bsky.social
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Thanks for this. I have been wondering why people don't speak when I say hello to them. This really helps me to undestand.
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Happyroach
@ericthetolle.bsky.social
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That sounds to me like a completely normal thing. In part because a lot of the time dealing with strangers suddenly approaching involves doing a quiet threat assessment...
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Jeph Jacques
@ass.golf
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It’s like my brain has 3-5 canned responses (“yep!” “Haha!” “Thanks!”) that it falls back on to give me a couple precious seconds to spin up the Conversation Matrix. But I still come off as awkward or unfriendly a lot of the time (having resting sadface doesn’t help)
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T
@tuesdayalia.bsky.social
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Introvert here and this is 1000% accurate!
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Bart Leib
@metafrantic.bsky.social
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That is very much an adhd & autism thing.
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Kyle
@kylezz.bsky.social
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Same 😭
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Kaycie D. 🎸 Webcomic Artist
@kcdstudios.bsky.social
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I just had the realization the other day that I feel like I exit my body or take my hands off the wheel, whatever comes out of my mouth happens, and then after it’s done I have to spend a lot of time evaluating how I did. It’s a trip
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johnny deformed
@johnnydeformed.bsky.social
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this happens to me when the checkout person doesn't say what i planned for them to say
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Tea 🍃
@bruisedtealeaf.bsky.social
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This is me when I run into someone I haven’t seen asking me “How are you?” And I never, ever, ask back and only remember after the fact
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Andy of Maps
@andysmaps.bsky.social
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God yes. I feel like "I don't have a script for this"
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