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Larre Bildeston
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Indeed. I hope all goes as smoothly as possible for you with no lingering crap.
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Larre Bildeston@larreau.bsky.social |
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Writer, artist, parent, carer. Autistic and acespec. Australia via Aotearoa, (soft) atheist. Agender. Pronouns: I want to say “any” since I’m collecting A words. (they/them actually) The Space Ace of Mangleby Flat (2023) is on Amaz*n
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Larre Bildeston
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Indeed. I hope all goes as smoothly as possible for you with no lingering crap.
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Bilbo Yaga
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I want more folks to know about libro.fm as an alternative to Audible or Spotify or other shady corps.
It’s 100% employee-owned and works like Audible, except your credits support an indie bookstore of your choosing instead of Amazon.
Go listen to a disabled author for Disability Pride Month! 💙📚
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Larre Bildeston
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A friend with Covid said the exact same thing yesterday
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Larre Bildeston
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See. Why can’t I have good dreams like this? I dreamed I went to the fridge to get an apple. I couldn’t work out why I was holding two apples when I only wanted one.
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Riccardo Fusaroli
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On a neurodiversity book binge during the summer. Especially on female neurodiversity, and the different expectations/challenges brought into social interactions. What are your favorite picks? (I did read neurotribes, a divergent mind, aspergirls, and a ton of [auto]biographies)
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George Penney
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(Thread) Things spotted on market day in a small city Aotearoa New Zealand: A teenager in a hoodie and tracksuit pants, holding a head of broccoli like a bunch of flowers out to his mum saying "Happy birthday". She clutches her chest in mock surprise before breaking into laughter. (1)
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Larre Bildeston
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Ok. I was just wondering who would get called if someone found him and took him to the vet or to the RSPCA and had his microchipped read. (Hopefully not your dad)
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Larre Bildeston
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Let me know. It makes intuitive sense to me because of the link between Autism and 'stretchiness' (EDS genes, regardless of EDS diagnosis). That same 'stretchiness' might also explain my endometriosis and astigmatism. It was a neuro physiotherapist who clarified that link for me.
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Larre Bildeston
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I should also add: I have now had just two evenings taking Gaviscon (the most Autistic-unfriendly fucking concoction on earth) and turns out my reflux was actually not very 'silent', as I thought. I just hadn't *noticed* it until I drank the Gaviscon and was immediately relieved.
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Larre Bildeston
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I should stop being surprised whenever I do this after getting diagnosed with literally everything I've so far been diagnosed with. I haven't even clicked on that link--it just makes sense.
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Larre Bildeston
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Drop the most powerful image in your gallery with zero explanation
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Larre Bildeston
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That’s full of typos. Oops
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Larre Bildeston
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I have wondered how much my asexuality affects what I do and don’t find funny. I am con sisterly across contests told I am “quirky”. So I do know what you mean about humour being specific. I suspect what I’d find funny would be unrelatable to many allos. (Which is partly why I asked.)
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Kathryn Tewson
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The first episode, at least, has one of the women speaking in her own voice. Her story is consistent, coherent, and credible, and based on her words *alone* I believe her. I transcribed it because I wanted her story to be more accessible. drive.google.com/file/d/1Ql2b...
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Larre Bildeston
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The biggest threat right now is someone else finds him and starts feeding him. My mother used to work for the SPCA and it’s a big problem. Cars always look so darn hungry. Is he microchipped?
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Larre Bildeston
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At teachers college I was sent on a special extra course to learn how to project my voice and do body language. Turns out I was excellent at acting. Instantly became a high masker. Until I burnt out after four and a bit years.
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Larre Bildeston
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My guess: publishers would become suddenly very interested if a big name celebrity came out very vocally as aspec. (Here’s hoping when that happens it’s not some straight white guy credibly accused of sexual assault.)
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Larre Bildeston
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Oh no. Here’s hoping he is a very smart boy who has already learned he should come back to you.
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Larre Bildeston
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Can you think of a really funny asexual book? What’s the most laugh out loud aspec book you’ve read? I think there’s much potential for aspec comedy, in the right hands.
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Larre Bildeston
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Didn’t even notice the typos tbh
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Larre Bildeston
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Hell yes. I read some absolute shit I tell you. My father (also Autistic) had a book on the art of Chinese face reading (phrenology, basically). Fortunately I did even then recognise these books were full of it. Interesting to reflect on how much I was reflecting and masking though.
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Larre Bildeston
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I suspect aces have a separate hurdle: Trans gender and Autism are seen as a “something” whereas apecs are seen as a “nothing”
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Larre Bildeston
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A “breakout book” is hard for me to define. Publishers probably have a definition of what that means. The trans equivalent in my head was Detransition, Baby bc non-trans readers were picking it up. Notably, Peter’s dedicated it to divorced women (a much larger demographic).
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Larre Bildeston
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I bet Allan Pease had something to do with that I bought his book as a teenager and read it. (It was front and centre at chain stores.). I guess I was trying to make sense of the world.
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Larre Bildeston
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I taught at a 60% Maori Pasifika high school so I get this completely. (Didn’t realise I was Autistic at the time) I did learn how very Western this expectation is.
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Larre Bildeston
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I am this close to clearing my shelf of Margaret Atwood. For me that one is harder.
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Larre Bildeston
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As an Autistic asexual, if we’ve ever had an extended moment of eye contact, for me it was more intense than sex.
I know exactly how creepy that sounds.
Now imagine how creeped out *I* am that eye contact in Western countries is a marker of trustworthiness, respect and politeness.
#NotAll
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Hi, it’s Abby. Yep.
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Me: I know panty hose are a little dated but I love how they even out my skin tone Bank Teller: So is this not a robbery? Me: No, it is
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Larre Bildeston
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Facts: Same dickhead who made that word also invented the shape of the USB charger
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With Autism we got The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time. I look to YAL to predict where adult lit follows (eg The Lovely Bones kicked off a dead narrator trend which started in YAL). Do you think eg Alice Oseman might do similar for aces?
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Larre Bildeston
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Do you think the As will get spotlighted by mainstream publishing? Listening to Torrey Peters talk about how surprised she was that Detransition, Baby took off (Caitlin Jenner coming out sparked public interest/prurience) has made me wonder if aces will ever be of genuine interest to allos.
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Larre Bildeston
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And is there any aspect of asexuality/aromanticism you’ve never ever seen repped in fiction, or only repped badly?
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Larre Bildeston
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Was there ever a politician on the face of the earth who does not have “beautiful daughters” to thank? No beautiful sons? No smart and caring daughters?
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Larre Bildeston
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Is there a feminist re-visioning of Rip Van Winkle where the wife is not so bad and actually fully justified?
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Ok I have a question. Do you look back to your childhood reading/TV and headcanon/see aspec rep in there anywhere? (Many allos would probably say all kidlit is asexual by definition, but I’d disagree with that. Heteronormativity pervades kidlit.)
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Larre Bildeston
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I’m enraged just hearing this second hand.
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I want you to write an annotated edition now
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Larre Bildeston
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Hasn’t been banned yet then?
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Larre Bildeston
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Reading all these 4 July posts I’m very glad fireworks is banned where I live. Not that it stops everyone but last time kids lit crackers round here they set the grass on fire. Our neighbour noticed and put it out. Can’t remember if i thanked him properly for that now I think about it
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Larre Bildeston
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Also Astralia and varios other contries
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Larre Bildeston
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I get it. My kid's hoarding disorder extends to taking screenshots of everything he finds cool on the net, and every time something awesome happens in a game
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Larre Bildeston
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That'll do it. The number of issues that have been resolved in this household after remembering one of the iPads is trying to connect...
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Larre Bildeston
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Do you speak Italian? If not, your best strategy is probably just to learn Italian 😁 My most hated TV app UI is Binge. It’s been years and it’s flaky as hell, and I still haven’t learned which directions to swipe to get out of a screen
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Larre Bildeston
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I am actually very used to this. This nurse did not know my son is Autistic. But I’ve had 16 years of parenting an AuDHD kid and trying to get him through the educational system, and judgement from all quarters for accommodating his needs, so this shit is not new to me (my own experiences aside)
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Larre Bildeston
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Sometimes something happens inside a medical room and like, I need to vent on socials and then I think, that is just *so* unhinged ppl probably won’t even believe it really happened. (ND, genderqueer and disabled ppl believe it of course)
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Larre Bildeston
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Or basketball sneaker syndrome in this case He dresses like a five foot four basketball professional
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My blood pressure was borderline so my Australian GP told me about his planned trip to AoNZ while taking it again and I must have got pretty excited telling him all the places to visit bc then it measured through the roof. He gave up, told me to measure at home. (It’s white coat syndrome)
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Larre Bildeston
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He has asthma so this sounds like he’d benefit. I’ll keep reminding him to follow up anyway bc he can wake me up from another room istg it can’t be healthy
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Larre Bildeston
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The splint is for bruxism though? Now I’m wondering if I’d also be an epic snorer if not for the splint
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Larre Bildeston
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The paediatrician runs her business like that. Partly to do with the fact she herself is in cancer remission no doubt. The gender doctor also great. But no one else. (And I’ve unfortunately seen many doctors this past year.)
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