One of the worst things about online in the last few years has been the idea of "cringe" and how its been used to crush the ideas of believing in things, wholeheartedness, hope.
I'm frankly sick of doomer assholes. If everything is hopeless, then actually give up and stop paying microscopic attention to current events and the discourse. Shut the fuck up about politics and find a more constructive place to work out your mental health issues.
A similar corrosive phenomenon has been the spread of what Jay Rosen called the "savvy style" among political reporters, columnists and editors at major news organizations where facile cynicism is prized and ethics, morality, and caring about outcomes are embarrassingly naive and unprofessional.
It's been something I've contended with as a kid, and yeah weaponized cringe sucks.
It held me back more than anything because I was so afraid of letting myself and my own interests flourish, out of fears of being annoying and looking like a jackass.
I think so much of it starts as an online posture so as to not let people know the real you (because then when people mock you it doesn’t hurt because it isn’t really you). But it’s Mother Night, you are what you pretend to be. Ironic anything becomes your real position over time.
Thinking about a friend watching me edit a 6+ hour long VOD and sarcastically going "look at you, putting in actual effort."
I didn't respond at the time, but I thought like, "Yeah, no shit? If you want to get anywhere you need to actually give a crap."
Like, what even is the proper response lol.
"Cringe" is the reaction from others wanting to impose their level of acceptability on others for being too weird, too loud, too enthusiastic, too honest with what they are into. "Cringe" is sad sack pieces of shit trying to make you as sad as they are. Why give them that power? Their approval?
I think about this a lot, and it's honestly part of why I love RPGs of all stripes. FF14, in particular the most recent Endwalker expansion, has keeping wholehearted hope as a central theme. Disco Elysium is great at tearing down hope and building it back up- more stark and grim, but also stronger.
My most charitable explanation is it as a trauma response to, at some point, wholeheartedly hoping and believing in something that turned out to be stupid fucking bullshit. I think my layer of ironic distance in my 20s/30s was low-reward, but also relatively low-risk. It’s a coherent strategy.
I still think about James Gunn's interviews before the first GotG movie came out and he said he made it because he was tired of the cynicism of the internet/current culture and he wanted to show it's cool to care, to give a shit.
The problem is that "cringe" is the modern "Smurf". It's every kind of word possible. It's entirely grammatically correct now to say "What's Cringe my cringes, did you cringe that cringe last cringe on the cringe cringe? I cringed so cringe that I cringe cringe cringe."