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C.J. Subko@cjsubko.bsky.social |
I needed this today
@alt-text.bsky.social
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C.J. Subko@cjsubko.bsky.social |
I needed this today
@alt-text.bsky.social
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(Morgann’s version)
@tardisinparis.bsky.social
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We can’t succeed in a world where buying a tee-shirt is an ethical decision involving child labour from across the globe. “Failing” and enjoying what we do while it last is good actually™️. I’d even go so far as to say that enjoying your life is a small revolution in itself, no matter the ups & downs
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Brian
@brianxsmith.bsky.social
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Sideways stare at: banjo, kettlebells, medical school, manuscript, PF membership
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Arone Le Bray
@alebray.bsky.social
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"...something something my works, ye mighty... something something despair..."
(Questionable Content by Jeph Jaques reference added for fun, taken from here: www.questionablecontent.net/view.php?com...)
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eustace
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KE Salisbury
@kesalisbury.bsky.social
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So true Everything has its season and some seasons last longer than others, that's all
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Gwen C. Katz
@gwenckatz.bsky.social
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This is also why capitalism is so closely linked to denial of death (both billionaires freezing their heads and injecting themselves with teenage blood and, more broadly, our culture's lack of a way to face and/or discuss death other than by pretending it isn't happening).
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Barrington Kenilworth IV
@barringtonk.bsky.social
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www.youtube.com/watch?v=QWV4...
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Anymouse He/Him
@anymouse68.bsky.social
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Went to art school in the 90s. Spent over a decade as a graphic designer. Then, I fell out of love with it and am now part of the bicycle industry. I don't regret anything. Well, except that stint as an intern at a wedding magazine. The wedding industry is effing insane)
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Cynthia Gómez
@cynthiasaysboo.bsky.social
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I think that the capitalist structure of "constant growth" is strongly connected to this.
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Hector Coronado
@hectorcoronado.bsky.social
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@kyleshevlin.com w/r/t what we were talking about yesterday, see above. Re-contextualizing “going through a phase” might could be useful in a wide range of circumstances.
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Peter
@cgblue.bsky.social
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Amen. Amen. Amen.
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Conductor
@chanchan.bsky.social
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None of those except one are a promise of "until death do you part". Failed marriages are a real thing. Moving on from a business or hobby is not the same. Not even ending friendships are the same.
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kelsey lewin
@kelslewin.bsky.social
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needed to hear this one today. thank you ❤️
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ITI NewsBreaks
@itinewsbreaks.bsky.social
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I feel this in my bones. Such great points.
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Gordos52
@gordos52.bsky.social
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I heard somewhere, 'Marriage is a race between death and divorce, and if death comes first, the marriage was a success.' It's really OK to have things end. Sometimes it means other things (sometimes better things) begin.
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akaGlamtasm
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"Ran its course" is a legitimate way for any number of things to conclude, be it a business, television show, series of books, or relationship. People change and/or outgrow aspects of their lives, stories have conclusions. The best success is being able to recognize the right time.
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@chronoranger.bsky.social
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Calvin and Hobbes
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Teddy 🇭🇹
@teddylj.bsky.social
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It'll sound stupid but the thing I thought of first when I read this was how much I loved the TV show Lost.
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Boba 🇵🇸🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
@bobas.online
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The original source: www.tumblr.com/brightwander...
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Dylan Kussman
@dylankussman.bsky.social
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fuckin incredible. thank you so much for this.
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Paul Potiki
@guanolad.bsky.social
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I've never thought about that before, but it's so true. I treasure most of my short-lived experiences.
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Antiqueight
@antiqueight.bsky.social
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Thank you. I went looking for this a while back and couldn't find it. Saved it now.
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Nerd
@babayaga25.bsky.social
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I mean, I agree in theory. But in practice, all this stuff means assuming debt. * Start a coffee shop * Pursue a career in a profession * Buy into a neighborhood It all just feels so expensive to flit from thing to thing. And every day closer to old age, when things get even more expensive.
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Michael Teague
@eugaet.bsky.social
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Val
@jambalayaval.bsky.social
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I stopped to read this and got so sidetracked looking for info on the author and reposting on other social media platforms! Thanks for sharing it. It was an adventure.
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Val
@jambalayaval.bsky.social
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Absolutely! I've said some of those very words myself, then began to doubt that I even knew what I was talking about – because "society" kept telling me I was a failure for letting it go. Everything in its own time...
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DKDevil
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My friend has a fun saying: "All good things must come to an end. If it doesn't end, then it was never good." We usually use it in the context of never-ending film and videogame IP. We often wish things like star wars and marvel would just go away so that new ideas can rise and take their place.
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Thomas Edmund
@thomasedmund.bsky.social
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Same
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Adam Richard
@adamrichard.bsky.social
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Maximilian Ximenez
@maxximenez.bsky.social
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If your coffee shop is still making money and you don't want to run it anymore... Sell it?
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r
@recombobulating.bsky.social
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I feel like this wish for immutability lies behind a lot of our problems at the moment. It sounds simple and easy and nice but it's not alive.
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Andy Fraser
@andyfraser.bsky.social
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Thank you - that’s a very gentle and good insight. Knowing when to close a door and move on is a great life skill - and shouldn’t change the value of what went before.
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@plaidpanties.bsky.social
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we could use "retired" more often - like I sometimes say I'm a retired yoga teacher and I know a retired jewelry maker, folks could retire from married life - that validates the lived experience
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Alzamon || アルサもン
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If anything this should take some pressure off teens about to enter college who think they *need* to find their "true" calling at 17-18. When chances are you'll have several callings and interests through stages of life, not just the one they think.
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Doggot(t)o
@doggofetish.bsky.social
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A lot of things u start out wishing you could do it forever I suppose
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Heartburn 🔞🐉
@heartburn.bsky.social
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People absolutely do need to be more comfortable with the idea that nothing lasts forever.
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"Fuck every cause that ends in murder and children crying."
@nocatsnomasters.bsky.social
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The only stable state is 'ended'. Anything and everything else is just passing through. The interesting parts are ephemeral, so pay attention to them.
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@elfoofy.bsky.social
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Steven Buck
@lairddinnaken.bsky.social
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That’s very true! Hadn’t really thought of success in those terms but the ‘forever’ qualifier has become ubiquitous, seemingly by stealth…👍
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E. Allyn (aka Norton II, Emperor of the United States)
@ericallyn.bsky.social
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Author John Scalzi has written about how - paraphrasing - aspiring writers should just *write* and not bother trying to write Best-Selling Works of Genius That Become Classics. He fully expects his work to become obscure or entirely unknown well before the century is over. And he's fine with that.
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E. Allyn (aka Norton II, Emperor of the United States)
@ericallyn.bsky.social
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See also: flowers, rainbows, snowflakes, etc.
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mayonnaise boy
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I don’t think the alt text bot is working so here you go:
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Nurseferatu
@nurseferatu.bsky.social
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I think this correlates with the American mythos of perpetual expansion. The expectation that everything will get bigger, better, more valuable, additional features, newer colors, higher salary, bigger office, etc
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Storlom 🇵🇱🇺🇦🇵🇸
@storlom.bsky.social
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Moving on from a coffee shop to another business Moving on from writing books to another profession Getting divorced One of the three is not like the other 😅
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Jonty Wareing
@jonty.bsky.social
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Source: www.tumblr.com/brightwander...
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@onlysound.bsky.social
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Yes! www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/48132/...
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@49b.bsky.social
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I feel the same way about musical one-hit wonders. How many of us will ever get to write and/or perform even just one great song that is a hit. It's so strange that we degrade acts that "only" do that.
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G!
@gpike.bsky.social
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Here for a good time, not for a long time.
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Rachel Yvonne Bonaccorso Lindsay *The Sheenanigans*
@luthierlady.bsky.social
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You know what, this has another consequence. Whenever we do something we feel that it has to turn into a routine or a project instead of just doing the thing as and when it makes us happy and inspired. If I could tell my younger self anything it would be: don’t assign yourself PROJECTS. Just act.
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Raea 🦋💕🏳️⚧️🏴
@raeaa.bsky.social
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love this 🥰🥰 reminds me of this conan quote
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Lizard
@lizardky.bsky.social
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From @ryannorth.ca .
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Candy Worner
@candyworner.bsky.social
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Totally agree!
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Caitlin Rozakis
@caitlinrozakis.bsky.social
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Given that the potential end conditions for everything are either "stop" or "death"...we really do need to get more comfortable with the transience of nice things.
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C.J. Subko
@cjsubko.bsky.social
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LOL everyone's like "marriage is different" it's not though don't come at me I really don't care to argue this point you're just missing the whole point of the story
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C.J. Subko
@cjsubko.bsky.social
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Wow did not expect this to blow up. I wish I knew where it was from originally! My friend sent it to me over Instagram
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JJ
@jjreeder.bsky.social
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A well known couple divorced recently after something like 40 years of marriage and I remember a headline lamenting that their marriage had “failed.”
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Travis
@travis-b.bsky.social
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I am currently in my 3rd major near decadal career as an adult. Military, cable repair, then construction in my mid-30's. Even now, I just made a major change a few weeks ago by quitting my job for a sizable raise at a different shop.
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Iain Shepherd
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business world seems like this it started at “stopping = failure” it went past “Having a year that isn’t your best year yet = failure” it got worse “always be zooming, don’t worry about the year you crash, sucks to be a sucker haha” and so … <gestures around>
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Sarah May
@sarahmay1.bsky.social
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Me too!
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Transient Sun
@t0sun.bsky.social
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I found it on my discover feed, if you want to know why I'm here. And I don't think this is new, it's just that we remember the people who dabbled or were even successful in multiple things in the past with a full view of who they were after the fact. As they were alive, they surely dealt with it
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It's boops, boops boops.
@cuddlyonmain.bsky.social
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When my ex husband and I were in couples therapy, one of the things that they told us changed everything for us both. He asked if we regretted marrying each other and when we both said no because we wouldn't have our kids he said "well maybe the marriage has fulfilled it's purpose".
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Alannah
@clevelannah.bsky.social
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A feel tangentially related is the belief that steadiness and stability is also frowned upon. A business that pulls a steady profit for years needs to expand and grow beyond its means to be successful. Staying in a job you enjoy and love is sacrificing a career and you should advance until burnout.
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CaryJo
@caryjo.bsky.social
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I’m in this exact spot.
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GarbageNirvana
@garbagenirvana.bsky.social
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There was an arcade I went to in high school with my friends that is no longer there but I made some of the best memories I have as a teenager there, to me that place was successful
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Ulí 🔞🏳️🌈🇵🇷
@vulainia.bsky.social
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I replaced “failed” with “concluded” and it’s been helping me move along life better tbh
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Shaun Horton
@authorshaunhorton.bsky.social
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Torr Leonard 🧵
@torrleonard.bsky.social
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This person in the screenshot is right about the piece being wrong about marriage though 😆
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Orla Nic Fhlannchaidh/Orla Clancy
@orlacp.bsky.social
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There are people out there who think I'm not a successful artist because I haven't sold all my artworks and don't have a lot of money.
They're wrong. I'm very successful because I've made a lot of great artworks. I just have to learn the selling skills to make money off them. #art #artbusiness
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bibliotequetress
@bibliotequetress.bsky.social
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♥️
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James Forsyth
@jaforsyth.bsky.social
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Relevant poem
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dunroamin
@dunroamin.bsky.social
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Thanks for this post❣️
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Timlagor
@timlagor.bsky.social
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It's even worse than that. If you run your coffee shop for a while and don't then get a second coffee shop you've failed to expand!
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Sarah Terry
@spellegance.bsky.social
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Yes yes yes!
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Brian C. Baer
@briancbaer.bsky.social
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Wow, I did too. Thanks.
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Karen M. Poremski
@kmporemski.bsky.social
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OH YES. We're so bad at this, as a culture, but there is real power in being able to end a good thing when it's over. I have worked on building the skill of recognizing when a thing is done, and then saying thank you & letting go. It's wonderful!
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Left Below
@below-left.bsky.social
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Interesting bit of neuroscience is we seem to have two selves, the experiencing self and the remembering self, with the latter being to blame here because the remembering self places emphasis on the highlights and lowlights of an experience, plus how it ended.
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Little Drama Boy
@littledramaboy.bsky.social
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MFW they want to revive Linkin Park
(src: metalinjection.net/news/is-link...)
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🔞Neph, Changeling Fucker Surpreme
@nephrastar.bsky.social
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shortly after my last relationship ended i saw a comment someone made where they were discussing this sort of thing to their therapist, and their therapist said "Don't think of your relationship as failed. Think of it as complete."
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Jared Craft
@jaredacraft.bsky.social
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This is awesome.
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Peter Lythgoe
@pjlythgoe.net
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Spot on. When my management at work became so bad that I took early retirement I know who failed and it wasn't me.
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Digital Cuttlefish
@digitalcuttlefish.bsky.social
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Steve Worcester
@stevewfolds.bsky.social
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Hits in several places thank you.
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Gerald Leenerts
@gthirty3.bsky.social
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I've been exploring that thought lately, it's sad because isn some ways it feels like we have culturally lost our curiosity to fear.
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New Leaf
@newleaf.bsky.social
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Here, here.
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Tim
@housan.bsky.social
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At least the business has one other non-eternal success criteria: you sold it after getting it up and running.
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