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cait@cait.bsky.social |
the second people started calling being someone's friend "emotional labor" we were fucked as a society
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Sarcasmorator
@sarcasmorator.bsky.social
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aaargh i hate that so much
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density
@density.bsky.social
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It was lonnnng before that
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Just Melissa (she/her)
@pnwmelissa.bsky.social
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Eh, I think it’s good for people to realize it if they’re being used as a doormat. And to direct the emotional dumpor to therapy if appropriate.
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Esc
@escmike.bsky.social
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I goddamn hate that phrase. It's original meaning got hijacked almost instantly to serve some weird neo-narcissism
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Thalia Lemon
@drawsforfun.bsky.social
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My toddler expects me to do all the emotional labour of calming him down after a tantrum, so I worry I’m preparing him for a life of depending on women to regulate his moods for him.
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Thalia Lemon
@drawsforfun.bsky.social
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That’s when it *starts*? I think we are way past start.
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Curlz MT stan account
@rachelsmith.bsky.social
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if you make any demands on my time or expect anything of me emotionally that's labor and it's toxic
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ZHUGE LIANG 285/600$
@shuchancellor.online
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Like many terms that came from honest academic investigation, the petty bourgeois segment of the internet got ahold of it and then they cooked everyone's brains
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@captainsidecar.bsky.social
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I thought "emotional labour" was code for "being an adult is proving to be hard work and this is not the life of affluent, carefree leisure I believe myself to be entitled to". But maybe that's just how I've seen it most often used.
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Miles!
@9coacheswaiting.bsky.social
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Any friend you think of as requiring “emotional labor” is no longer a friend (and is probably an emotional vampire)
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Alaskan Weeb
@alaskanweeb.bsky.social
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If someone calls being friends emotional labor I will [redacted] their chest cavity with a [redacted]
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Worms & Snakes
@worms-and-snakes.bsky.social
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Eh. I think it's good to have language to talk about the effort that goes into relationships. It can be difficult, taxing, and take real skill, but because it's associated with and expected more from women, society likes to deny that.
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theJoelest.bsky.social
@thejoelest.bsky.social
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Sounds more like an empathy problem. Still fucked.
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Self-deprecating ghost
@soundwave187.bsky.social
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Grwat... can't wait for them to send us a bill for that now.
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Lady Laura
@laurawitt.bsky.social
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Hard agree. Whatever happened to just saying, "I love Susan but she sure can be exhausting sometimes!" and then moving on? Talk like a human, not like an alien awkwardly describing the friendship rituals of our species.
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Dominique Ramsey 𓆣🍉
@euqinimodart.bsky.social
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"I don't want a high maintenance friend" what the actual fuck does that mean
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Excalibur Discount Legal Services
@kevychristian.bsky.social
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This is definitely one of the most “woah” posts I’ve read in awhile.
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Hollywood Hank Hill
@audleyzdarke.bsky.social
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"Emotional labor" as it was originally coined doesn't even come close to caring for your friends. It's literally about putting on a happy face at work. Also, don't be shitty to your friends, come on.
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Laura K
@cakeylaura.bsky.social
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Or two people just having a disagreement about something “gaslighting”.
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Jenna Talia
@jennatalia.bsky.social
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The moment we switched from "venting" to "trauma dumping" is up there, too.
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nora-hakase (野良博士)
@nora-hakase.bsky.social
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I think of this as a subset of "emotional discomfort is damage/illness" and I totally agree
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cidonnelly1
@cidonnelly.bsky.social
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Suddenly, everything seems to be “emotional labor.” Showing up to work with a decent attitude. Common courtesy. Customer service skills. Marriage.
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bats | euri
@euradi.bsky.social
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i refuse to believe feds didn’t pounce on therapy speak spreading like they were starving hyenas
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Jonathan
@jginsburg.bsky.social
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Yeah that was baaaad
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Ceiling Cat
@ceilingcat.bsky.social
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friendship is mutually beneficial, but codependency is asymmetrical.
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Karen Geier
@karengeier.com
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Sending an invoice to my friend for going over time at dinner
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bea anne
@baileyreallife.bsky.social
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yeah i see how the trickle happened - many of us end up in very lopsided or even entirely one sided frienships and probably should pull back - but applying it to just everyday run of the mill friendships that go through ups and downs? come on grow up
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Dr. Jimbosaur, Esq.
@jimbosaur.bsky.social
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Savrin
@savrindrake.bsky.social
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If you won't help your friends move a body, are they really your friends?
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Willie Dustice
@williedustice.bsky.social
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"Emotional labour of when your face to pretend to be sociable or friendly in order to do your job" Very sane, healthy and normal people: "Oh so like when I talk to my actual friends about what's going on in their lives?"
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wembley
@bananashirt.bsky.social
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i think it's good to have boundaries; i know i've been the emotional vampire and i've also been fed on; it's complicated
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Nick Jackson 🎨
@entrylevelforlife.bsky.social
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Honestly what the fuck was that even about, sorry your friends trust you and want your input I guess?
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𝕊𝕒𝕣𝕒𝕙 𝕂𝕚𝕥𝕖🪁 🇵🇸
@sarahkite.bsky.social
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friendship apps are all I want to labor with you, emotionally
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Jocoso
@jocoso.bsky.social
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Idk. I think we should normalize being able to tell your friends you don't want to hear them complain again about something they can 100% change. Cause some people be treating their friends like they are a diary.
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cait
@cait.bsky.social
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if you argue with me in the replies to this i'm charging you $125 an hour for my time
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Mr Dr Bae
@dallas-taylor.bsky.social
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I know the ship sailed but it's wild to me how that term has evolved from its original coining. In its very first usage, it was describing how stewardesses and bill collectors did their jobs.
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The Matriculated Brick
@beeb33.bsky.social
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No one who uses this term to describe their labor has ever done emotional labor
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Catbus
@catbus.bsky.social
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some people have gotten so alienated under capitalism they can't even imagine a non-transactional relationship
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Stephanie 🎀
@beamsandbows.bsky.social
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If anyone feels it’s “emotional labor” to be my friend, I don’t want them to stick around. That’s not an authentic friendship.
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BraveryTEWalker
@braverytewalker.bsky.social
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Wait, wasn't that term originally used to describe how minorities are expected to explain why bigotry is ~bad~ instead of the person using Google, which is free? My timeline could be way off, but that's where I first heard it. Not as a way to describe... being a friend.
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